How about when you both work?
Are you happy with the balance in your home?If your spouse is supporting the household and you're at home with the kids...what's the split? Both work?
I stay home, my husband works full time.
I take care of most child related issues like dr appointments, school runs, play groups etc. We do family outings some weekends that he attends too.
As for housework, I do most of it, I vacuum, mop, do dishes and clean the bathroom. He helps sometimes with folding they laundry ( if I'm doing it when hes home) and sometimes I give him the bathroom to clean, and he does.
Our room is for him to keep clean ( I vacuum but he needs to keep it organized) because when we first moved in together he would just leave his stuff where ever he felt like it. After a while i got so sick of either picking it up or nagging at him to pick it up that we made a deal that he gets a corner in our bedroom where he can just dump his clothes and stuff he doesnt feel like putting in its place, and every couple of weeks he needs to go thru it and put it where it goes.
I hate doing most of the housework but I think its fair because I am home all day and he is at work all day. Once I go back to work we need to re-assign several tasks but for now its working.
Oh I also cook and pay the bills and pretty much run the whole house. If I for some reason were not able to do anything I have serious doubt that he could keep everything running by himslef. It took me a while to figure it all out, it did not come naturally...If your spouse is supporting the household and you're at home with the kids...what's the split? Both work?
My wife and I sit down and discuse this very same issue every 2 to 4 weeks. This is primarily because I work full time and she works on a contract basis. This usually amounts to about 6 months out of the years. So, when she is working, I am expected to do more around the home. When she is not working, she is expected to do more around the home. As for money, she takes care of the bills she wants control over like the phone and internet/computer and I make her pay the electrical only because she like the home freezing in the summer and 80 in the winter. The rest of her money is hers to do what she wants with. She does often spend it on food or clothes for the both of us. My income goes to everything else. Mortgage, insurance, all other bills, food and entertainment.
I'm very happy with the balance in our home.
My husband works nights full time, he makes ALL the money that comes into our home. Because he's always worked nights, when the kids were little, on his nights off he took the night shift. He was used to being up anyway.
I do ALL of the housework, bill paying, cooking %26amp; appointments.
I shop alone on foot, or if it needs to be a big grocery, we shop together, I don't drive.
We decided before we got married what roles we were comfortable with, we had the same ideas so it's worked out wonderfully.
On the occasion that I've had to work to bring in extra cash, he's helped with the house stuff but I never keep a job longer than I have to. My place is here. I hate working outside the home.
I have been the primary caretaker of the home, bills, children, and shopping. About 3ish weeks ago the house stuff started to become more even, of course he also hasn't been working as much (hes a builder) so hes been home more. I actually apperciate someone else doing the dishes and the laundry. at this point in time, yea Im happy with the balance. now come talk to me in a month when hes back to working full time then i may have another story. :-)
Getting to stay home with the kids doesn't mean you get to watch tv all day! When he gets home from work he should be expected to help with the kids and do the yard work and home maintenance on the weekends. You should be doing the rest! He's working all day and you need to work all day around the house, both take care of the kids! When you both work, then all housework/yard work should be split equally!
yes it falls like that!!.
if your both working then you work around your scheduals, whoever is home at the time looks after the children and takes them where ever they need to go.
my partner is a full time worker %26amp; im a stay at home mum, i have a 1 year old son and im currently 35wks pregnant, he helps me with everything and im very greatful for this while im big and pregnant lol but i do not expect this after i have the 2nd baby, i will be back to making the home myself while hes at work - he doesnt have to worry
i take care of the baby [when he is here in a few weeks], clean house, cook, etc. he goes to work, helps me if i need help because he isnt a womanizing pig like some men lol, and he makes all the money we get. i dont pay the bills, he does, but he just does it online. and just helps with whatever i need help with. he goes to all my OB appointments and plans on going to as many if not all of the babes appointments with me when he is little. and i will have to take night shift anyways because im BFing exclusively hopefully lol =]
and yeah i like it, ive always wanted to be a SAHM since i was little bitty...thats what my mama did [she has a degree in physical therapy but WANTED to be a SAHM rather than stick me in day care all day]
if he's paying all the bills, the house is your responsibilty. but if he's not a total jerk, he'll help out. things like washing out the garbage cans and crap like that, make him do that stuff, why get dirty if you don't have to.
but if you both work equal hours, it needs to be divided up.
I do everything except garbage, lawn mowing, snow clearing, fixing stuff, major repairs and he also does some laundry and a little cooking.
Hubby works and I stay home. He cooks about twice a week. Does no laundry. Will wash dishes when I ask (which is hardly ever). After he gets home from work he pretty much takes over the baby while I do stuff around the house here and there or if I just need to relax. With the exception of the dishes he does from time to time I do all the housework. He does wash bottles each night but I wash the rest of the babies feeding supplies. I take care of making most of the payments for bills but he does the checkbook keeping (he just tells me when to pay what). We do have an older child that does help with stuff here and there. I take them to all of their drs appts and deal with outside school activities (he will go to drs appts if he is off that day, and doesn't do outside school activities cause he stays home with the baby). I am happy with the balance in the home. I know that if I wanted him to do something around the house all I have to do is ask and he will work on it.
For the most part, after 12 years of marriage, I feel like we are in a good spot as far as splitting the work both in and out of the house. We own a business together, and while I only work for the business part-time, I manage the money, so it can be very stressful. My husband however is still the main bread winner. Our children are 20yrs old (she's out of the house, married w/two kids), 18yrs old, 10yrs old and 8yrs old. The younger three live with us. Since I don't work full time at our company, I do take on the majority of the house and kids. Hubby however will cook dinner if I ask him, he will take a child to an extra curricular if I ask him, he will go grocery shopping if I give him a list, and once in a while when I schedule the whole family to deep clean the house, he is part of that. (usually I clean in bits and pieces, vaccume, wipe down bathrooms etc.) Hubby will also help with homework if I ask him to. I have noticed especially in the past couple of years that he pitches in much more than he used to. Part of it was learning how to ask. Somehow the house is Mom's domain by default....so Mom has to learn how to delegate!
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