i do,the Saudis have the right idea,some women just need a firm smack im afraid,they cannot understand reasoning and will eventually start wearing trousers lol?Do you agree in strict discipline for your spouse?
I believe that woman was created by God to submit to her husband and that he is her Master. As such, I do expect to be disciplined by him in whatever way he sees fit. However, that does not mean i would submit to anyone else and no I wouldn't want to live in a Muslim country.Do you agree in strict discipline for your spouse?
What i want to know is why men like you think they should be able to control women and expect us to be the little wife or girlfriend that tends to your every whim those days are long gone and as far as i know its not as bad now in the eastern countries either so get in the real world by the way i guess your not maried but if you are i bet you havent shown your wife what you have written.
Not necessarily, yeah the saudis do things right but remember, that kind of stuff was what lead to the women's rights movement
You could probably be charged with abuse for ';disciplining your spouse'; in this country. Spouse refers to both male and female so are you asking about spouses or strictly women?
Move there, you'll love it. any woman caught outside without a husband or adult son can be raped, then stoned for promiscuity.
Hi Joe Come round here and smack my wife.
When she's finished kicking the crap out of you and I stop laughing I'll shake your hand.
PS we're both military
Get a lot of action with the ladies?
I would bet that the only breast that your hands have ever touched came out of a KFC bucket.
thats why I live in the US, smack me and you will probably be tasting an iron skillet real soon afterwards......
Trip Trap.
He he he ..... well as long as its consensual. It sounds kinda kinky. Why do you want me to spank your spouse?
go there tomorrow,and maybe they will chop your hand off
Thursday, July 29, 2010
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Bringing a spouse from overseas to marry, which visa is fatser?
I plan on bringing over a girl from Dubai to marry. What is the best way to cut down on wait time, if I apply for a visa for a ';Fiance'; or for a ';Wife'; ? I am a US born citizen. Thanks for the helpBringing a spouse from overseas to marry, which visa is fatser?
K1 is faster, and once you have it, you must get married within 90 days of her arriving in the US and then file to adjust her status, as it's a non-immigrant visa.
No lawyer can make the USCIS, NVC or the Consulate process move any faster. The only thing the lawyer can do is ensure all the paperwork is filled out correctly and submitted quickly. If you're capable of doing that yourself, save your money for the honeymoon.Bringing a spouse from overseas to marry, which visa is fatser?
I brought my husband over from the UK and the easiest quickest way to do this is go to a immigration attorney. Ours cost around $3500 but they did everything and we ended up getting his green card A LOT quicker than doing it ourselves. The diffence between the two, is if you get a fiance visa, you then have to reapply once she becomes your wife. If you wed, you can then bring her into the states with whatever visa she requires to travel over here (my husband was on a visa waiver) and then go to the attorney and apply for her greencard. Took up about 6 months for the whole process.
They both take about the same amount of time, but Fiancee is the preferred option. What if you married her and then found out she couldn't get a visa because her brother was a terrorist or something? As a K-1 fiancee her residence and eventual citizenship is approved before the marriage.
I believe the fiance visa would be quicker, but you will have to prove that the two of you have had an on going relationship for the past two years. Photos together, emails, telephone records, plane tickets, etc.
K1 fiance visa takes around 6 months. Marriage visa takes at least 12 months. You don't need an attorney.
Everybody knows that the fiance visa is faster and has less pitfalls that may hang up the process.
Why don't you marry her in Dubai? It would be easier for both of you!! With the K visa sometimes there are papers that are not easy obtain!!
K1 is faster, and once you have it, you must get married within 90 days of her arriving in the US and then file to adjust her status, as it's a non-immigrant visa.
No lawyer can make the USCIS, NVC or the Consulate process move any faster. The only thing the lawyer can do is ensure all the paperwork is filled out correctly and submitted quickly. If you're capable of doing that yourself, save your money for the honeymoon.Bringing a spouse from overseas to marry, which visa is fatser?
I brought my husband over from the UK and the easiest quickest way to do this is go to a immigration attorney. Ours cost around $3500 but they did everything and we ended up getting his green card A LOT quicker than doing it ourselves. The diffence between the two, is if you get a fiance visa, you then have to reapply once she becomes your wife. If you wed, you can then bring her into the states with whatever visa she requires to travel over here (my husband was on a visa waiver) and then go to the attorney and apply for her greencard. Took up about 6 months for the whole process.
They both take about the same amount of time, but Fiancee is the preferred option. What if you married her and then found out she couldn't get a visa because her brother was a terrorist or something? As a K-1 fiancee her residence and eventual citizenship is approved before the marriage.
I believe the fiance visa would be quicker, but you will have to prove that the two of you have had an on going relationship for the past two years. Photos together, emails, telephone records, plane tickets, etc.
K1 fiance visa takes around 6 months. Marriage visa takes at least 12 months. You don't need an attorney.
Everybody knows that the fiance visa is faster and has less pitfalls that may hang up the process.
Why don't you marry her in Dubai? It would be easier for both of you!! With the K visa sometimes there are papers that are not easy obtain!!
My ex-spouse recently died, am I still considered to be divorced?
I wondered what I would put on forms and documents that ask for marital status.My ex-spouse recently died, am I still considered to be divorced?
You are only considered to be widowed if you were married at the time of his death. The divorce was prior to his death, so you are legally still considered divorced.
Some religions do not recognize divorce, and they will consider you to be widowed. For example, as a divorcee, you could not marry someone else in the Catholic Church (unless the Church issued an annulment of your first marriage). Once your Ex died, you would then be considered widowed and would be allowed to marry in the church.
I believe your question is about civil, not religious rules, and in that case you are legally still divorcedMy ex-spouse recently died, am I still considered to be divorced?
I am sorry....
If you and your spouse legally divorced before his death, then you are still legally divorced. Your marital status would not change because of his passing. The only way it would change is if you were still legally married - you would then be considered widowed.
If that is the biggest problem you have to worry about then you need more to do in your life. I never put my status on anything....it is no ones business! Why don't you worry about something important???
If you are divorced when your ex died then you are still divorced. I was also divorced when my ex died and I still say that I am divorced.
Yes, divorced.
Yeah you're still divorced. Funny though my ex was one week from being divorced when her soon to be ex died of a heart attack. She got his sizable life insurance policy.
Divorced, or Single.
Yes you are divorced.
You would be widowed if you were still married when your spouse died.
Divoriced duh! You wern't married to him when he died.
Your single. You are neither or since he has passed.
Just put ';Simple';
Yes--but what's wrong with just saying ';single';?
You are widowed not divorced.
You are only considered to be widowed if you were married at the time of his death. The divorce was prior to his death, so you are legally still considered divorced.
Some religions do not recognize divorce, and they will consider you to be widowed. For example, as a divorcee, you could not marry someone else in the Catholic Church (unless the Church issued an annulment of your first marriage). Once your Ex died, you would then be considered widowed and would be allowed to marry in the church.
I believe your question is about civil, not religious rules, and in that case you are legally still divorcedMy ex-spouse recently died, am I still considered to be divorced?
I am sorry....
If you and your spouse legally divorced before his death, then you are still legally divorced. Your marital status would not change because of his passing. The only way it would change is if you were still legally married - you would then be considered widowed.
If that is the biggest problem you have to worry about then you need more to do in your life. I never put my status on anything....it is no ones business! Why don't you worry about something important???
If you are divorced when your ex died then you are still divorced. I was also divorced when my ex died and I still say that I am divorced.
Yes, divorced.
Yeah you're still divorced. Funny though my ex was one week from being divorced when her soon to be ex died of a heart attack. She got his sizable life insurance policy.
Divorced, or Single.
Yes you are divorced.
You would be widowed if you were still married when your spouse died.
Divoriced duh! You wern't married to him when he died.
Your single. You are neither or since he has passed.
Just put ';Simple';
Yes--but what's wrong with just saying ';single';?
You are widowed not divorced.
Can a spouse of a soldier benefit with Soldier's and Sailor's Civil Relief Act?
The house was bough in 2004 before a marriage to a soldier.
The deed is not in his name and the process of foreclosure started the begining of this month. Can be stop by the Act since the marriage occurred on 2006?Can a spouse of a soldier benefit with Soldier's and Sailor's Civil Relief Act?
no. only the Service member is covered and only debts in HIS name. since he did not accrue the debt SSCRA does not apply.Can a spouse of a soldier benefit with Soldier's and Sailor's Civil Relief Act?
No it can not be used as He is not on the DEED...
Doubtful. Check with Base Legal and you will get the true answer.
yes i think so
The deed is not in his name and the process of foreclosure started the begining of this month. Can be stop by the Act since the marriage occurred on 2006?Can a spouse of a soldier benefit with Soldier's and Sailor's Civil Relief Act?
no. only the Service member is covered and only debts in HIS name. since he did not accrue the debt SSCRA does not apply.Can a spouse of a soldier benefit with Soldier's and Sailor's Civil Relief Act?
No it can not be used as He is not on the DEED...
Doubtful. Check with Base Legal and you will get the true answer.
yes i think so
What is the longest amount of time your spouse didn't try to make love to you???? ?
I have gained 10 pounds in the last year, worked 25-30 hrs a week, help his family all the time, I am a nice person and pretty (some people have told me I am not vain) I have tried to be adventuresome earlyier in our relationship and he didn't like tht. Do you think my hubby is just bored with me????What is the longest amount of time your spouse didn't try to make love to you???? ?
Who knows? It could be insecurity, or ED. Tell him you would really like it if he initiated once in a while.What is the longest amount of time your spouse didn't try to make love to you???? ?
In my realtionship, month or so- no longer intimate and now he hates me and is always angry. Why do I not feel intimate? Because we are not close, I am very depressed due to his cruel comments and so forth. I have low self-esteem. I am female though, so it is different actually. I say no or avoid as I feel he does not love me and I feel distant. Men can have low sex drive due to stress, anxiety, depression or in some rare cases (not saying yours, just heard of this from others ) they are seeing another on the side, don't get paranoid though as it is unlikely since you said he was never adventursome-that could mean a strict religious upbringing, feeling guilty about sexuality which causes depression (from my personal experience). Which makes more sense than an affair. So try talking about it perhaps. Hope all works out.
1 month.
I had decided that I would not look for my husband any more because every time that I did, I would get rejected and it would break my heart every time.
I decided to have him initiate sex. He just doesn't like to have sex as much as I do. Some men are like that - whether they have a lower libido, different chemistry - not all men are alike, and some are more into having sex and being more aggressive than others.
I also had a talk with him. We both have strong opinions against masturbating, and I told him that because we don't have sex often, I had felt the need to be touched and to climax for my sanity. Your body just ends up needing it. He understood.
When I told him how his lack of a sex drive was affecting me, emotionally and physically, he started to give in more and to do it and actually enjoy it. Eventually it feels good and he can't stop until he comes!
I get what I want - he gets to feel good about it too in the end.
Be open, be honest, be straightforward and talk. If you can't talk to your husband this way - how will you ever get satisfied?
He needs to know what you need, when you need it, and how.
5 days at that time of the month but sometimes he still tries to rub up on me while i am sleepin, and asks for other kinds of lovin so idk 48 hours???. We are open and have good communication and are adventurous. and i gained a lot when i had our child so i dont think that matters at least not in a truly loving relationship.
I am sorry i would say Communication communication communication.
I went for 2 months without sex....apparently i wanted it too much so i was put on a sex diet...things r good now tho.
Maybe you should talk 2 him and ask him whats going on.
He mite be like my ex brother in law...told my sister that after you get married that part of ur relationship is over....thank god they not 2gether anymore lol.
No,u need to have a change in ur life .Go on a weekend with ur husband and everythingz gonna be alright.
My boyfriend jumps at every chance he can. I am the one who never wants to.
my hubby didnt pursue me for 6 months. i was pregnant and he was banging his co worker.
6 months. I was pregnant then
Who knows? It could be insecurity, or ED. Tell him you would really like it if he initiated once in a while.What is the longest amount of time your spouse didn't try to make love to you???? ?
In my realtionship, month or so- no longer intimate and now he hates me and is always angry. Why do I not feel intimate? Because we are not close, I am very depressed due to his cruel comments and so forth. I have low self-esteem. I am female though, so it is different actually. I say no or avoid as I feel he does not love me and I feel distant. Men can have low sex drive due to stress, anxiety, depression or in some rare cases (not saying yours, just heard of this from others ) they are seeing another on the side, don't get paranoid though as it is unlikely since you said he was never adventursome-that could mean a strict religious upbringing, feeling guilty about sexuality which causes depression (from my personal experience). Which makes more sense than an affair. So try talking about it perhaps. Hope all works out.
1 month.
I had decided that I would not look for my husband any more because every time that I did, I would get rejected and it would break my heart every time.
I decided to have him initiate sex. He just doesn't like to have sex as much as I do. Some men are like that - whether they have a lower libido, different chemistry - not all men are alike, and some are more into having sex and being more aggressive than others.
I also had a talk with him. We both have strong opinions against masturbating, and I told him that because we don't have sex often, I had felt the need to be touched and to climax for my sanity. Your body just ends up needing it. He understood.
When I told him how his lack of a sex drive was affecting me, emotionally and physically, he started to give in more and to do it and actually enjoy it. Eventually it feels good and he can't stop until he comes!
I get what I want - he gets to feel good about it too in the end.
Be open, be honest, be straightforward and talk. If you can't talk to your husband this way - how will you ever get satisfied?
He needs to know what you need, when you need it, and how.
5 days at that time of the month but sometimes he still tries to rub up on me while i am sleepin, and asks for other kinds of lovin so idk 48 hours???. We are open and have good communication and are adventurous. and i gained a lot when i had our child so i dont think that matters at least not in a truly loving relationship.
I am sorry i would say Communication communication communication.
I went for 2 months without sex....apparently i wanted it too much so i was put on a sex diet...things r good now tho.
Maybe you should talk 2 him and ask him whats going on.
He mite be like my ex brother in law...told my sister that after you get married that part of ur relationship is over....thank god they not 2gether anymore lol.
No,u need to have a change in ur life .Go on a weekend with ur husband and everythingz gonna be alright.
My boyfriend jumps at every chance he can. I am the one who never wants to.
my hubby didnt pursue me for 6 months. i was pregnant and he was banging his co worker.
6 months. I was pregnant then
Is there a specific name for your cousins spouse?
When your cousin gets married, is there a name for their spouse that you would call them??Is there a specific name for your cousins spouse?
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HUSBAND OF COUSIN
cousin of husband
of cousin husband
husband cousin of
HUBBY OF MY CUZ
cuz of my hubby
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cuz my of hubby
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I wouldn't think they'd change their name, I dunno.. maybe.. I'd call them whatever they were called before.
Um... My cousin's wife or My cousin's Husband =)
Mary? John?
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HUSBAND OF COUSIN
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HUBBY OF MY CUZ
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I wouldn't think they'd change their name, I dunno.. maybe.. I'd call them whatever they were called before.
Um... My cousin's wife or My cousin's Husband =)
Mary? John?
What are some valid reasons(in your opinion) for not being attracted to your spouse?
If he treated me like crap, I wouldn't be attracted to him no matter how hot he was.What are some valid reasons(in your opinion) for not being attracted to your spouse?
If their actions involved within the relationship are less than loving.
emotional abuse
physical abuse
cheating
verbal abuse all of these would allow my desire to deminishWhat are some valid reasons(in your opinion) for not being attracted to your spouse?
If he/she have many vices like smoking, being alcoholic, gambling, drugs and lots of bad habits.
the way he treats me, if he cheated on me, if he hadnt showered in five days
he mistreats you in anyway.
they are fatrimmel applying eyeshadow
If their actions involved within the relationship are less than loving.
emotional abuse
physical abuse
cheating
verbal abuse all of these would allow my desire to deminishWhat are some valid reasons(in your opinion) for not being attracted to your spouse?
If he/she have many vices like smoking, being alcoholic, gambling, drugs and lots of bad habits.
the way he treats me, if he cheated on me, if he hadnt showered in five days
he mistreats you in anyway.
they are fat
Do you ever get resentful of your spouse?
Do you try to make compromise and change, try new things, try to be accommodating all with good intent and a good attitude, and then suddenly it will hit you (perhaps after a fight or disagreement) that you are harboring resentment? This happened to me, but I didn't push the disagreement because I wasn't sure if I was ';in the right'; or not.
Just curious if others go thru similar thingsDo you ever get resentful of your spouse?
Trust me, my friend, you really don't know what you've got until it's gone.Do you ever get resentful of your spouse?
I don't have a spouse, but my mom said she was resentful of my dad before. She also said my dad had very bad anger issues when they were married. They've been divorced for a long time, but I'm a teenager, and I still remember how things were back then when I was little. It was pretty bad. I still remember those days. Anyway, my mom was resentful. I don't exactly know what that means, but I just asked her the question. I don't really understand it, but she said she was resentful of my dad before. Anyway, I hope I helped you. I probably didn't. Good luck anyway! If you need help with any other questions, I'll try to answer.
The resentfulness I felt for my ex was that he never wanted a wife and a family. He only wanted a secretary, cook, gardner, maid and bookkeeper so he could be gone with his friends and family. He left me (a disabled wife) to take care of a ranch, child and all repairs associated with the upkeep of a large place.
No matter how many times I talked to him about this, it did not matter. He was going to be gone.
How can you not feel some hurt or resentment. You're a human with needs ,wants and hopes just like the other person you've argued with. Not feeling that your side truly was brought to light. Unresolved issues can fester. That is why a concealer can help to mediate. They will not let things go unresolved.
In marriage, it never a question of right or wrong. Marriage is the sweetest of all relations -- in love and in mutual fight also. It is always better to submit to your wife -- in the ultimate analysis.
I try to voice my concerns as soon as I have them. If resentment pops up (and of course it does....that's normal) it's best to address it and work through the problem quickly.
Don't bottle things up, if you have any worries you need to voice them.
If you start resenting your spouse then things aren't going to work.
i went through that when i was drinking ,she was only trying to help ,but i thought she was being controlling ,turned out she was right ,but hasn't mentioned it since.
YEP!
I always think about how much easier my life would be if he was HALF as busy as I was.
No.
Just curious if others go thru similar thingsDo you ever get resentful of your spouse?
Trust me, my friend, you really don't know what you've got until it's gone.Do you ever get resentful of your spouse?
I don't have a spouse, but my mom said she was resentful of my dad before. She also said my dad had very bad anger issues when they were married. They've been divorced for a long time, but I'm a teenager, and I still remember how things were back then when I was little. It was pretty bad. I still remember those days. Anyway, my mom was resentful. I don't exactly know what that means, but I just asked her the question. I don't really understand it, but she said she was resentful of my dad before. Anyway, I hope I helped you. I probably didn't. Good luck anyway! If you need help with any other questions, I'll try to answer.
The resentfulness I felt for my ex was that he never wanted a wife and a family. He only wanted a secretary, cook, gardner, maid and bookkeeper so he could be gone with his friends and family. He left me (a disabled wife) to take care of a ranch, child and all repairs associated with the upkeep of a large place.
No matter how many times I talked to him about this, it did not matter. He was going to be gone.
How can you not feel some hurt or resentment. You're a human with needs ,wants and hopes just like the other person you've argued with. Not feeling that your side truly was brought to light. Unresolved issues can fester. That is why a concealer can help to mediate. They will not let things go unresolved.
In marriage, it never a question of right or wrong. Marriage is the sweetest of all relations -- in love and in mutual fight also. It is always better to submit to your wife -- in the ultimate analysis.
I try to voice my concerns as soon as I have them. If resentment pops up (and of course it does....that's normal) it's best to address it and work through the problem quickly.
Don't bottle things up, if you have any worries you need to voice them.
If you start resenting your spouse then things aren't going to work.
i went through that when i was drinking ,she was only trying to help ,but i thought she was being controlling ,turned out she was right ,but hasn't mentioned it since.
YEP!
I always think about how much easier my life would be if he was HALF as busy as I was.
No.
Have you ever gotten annoyed when your spouse got to close to a person of the opposite sex at work?
Yes... what's wrong with that ?Have you ever gotten annoyed when your spouse got to close to a person of the opposite sex at work?
As a male, i had a co-worker who i was friends with. She was married and i was friends with her husband. when i met my g.f i let her know after we got more serious. that i have a co-worker who is a female that im friends with. i thought honesty would be the best policy. it turned out to be the worst thing i have ever done. it was a constant fight everyday. what was worst is that we worked in the same dept. so it made her mad. so i guess what im trying to say is. women will be mad regardlessHave you ever gotten annoyed when your spouse got to close to a person of the opposite sex at work?
Annoyed-I damn near murdered him!
Yes, and I let him know how I felt about it whether he wanted to hear it or not.
As a male, i had a co-worker who i was friends with. She was married and i was friends with her husband. when i met my g.f i let her know after we got more serious. that i have a co-worker who is a female that im friends with. i thought honesty would be the best policy. it turned out to be the worst thing i have ever done. it was a constant fight everyday. what was worst is that we worked in the same dept. so it made her mad. so i guess what im trying to say is. women will be mad regardlessHave you ever gotten annoyed when your spouse got to close to a person of the opposite sex at work?
Annoyed-I damn near murdered him!
Yes, and I let him know how I felt about it whether he wanted to hear it or not.
Did you ever have conflict with your spouse/signifigant other about?
Circumcision of a newborn baby boy? how did you settle it?Did you ever have conflict with your spouse/signifigant other about?
I don't have a son yet, but if me and my future spouse were to disagree on this, I would first make him read up on it and why it is unnescary, including watching videos of the procedure. If my spouse insisted that it be done, I would simply put my foot down on the issue and refuse. If you do not cxonsent to the procedure, the other spouse can nOT legally override you. You just need to be sure that all doctors involved with your sons care know that you disagree with your spoouse, and that you do NOT give consent, and they won't touch your son. I highly doubt that hubby will take you to court over this, so that should be the end of it.
Looking like Daddy is probably the stupidest argument- the fact is that most grown men don't know if their father is cut or not. Even if your son dOES notice, its a VERY simply explanation (Daddy had a little operation...) really, they notice that Daddy is bigger and hairier first.
The second worst idea is to go with Dad because ';he's the only one with a penis'; If your hubby was cut in infancy, he simpy doesn't know. YOU are the only spouse with intact genitals, afterall!
I would err on the side of caution in this case and NOT cut. Point out to your hubby that it is never to late to have the procedure performed, and that an adult gets full anesthesia, post op pain care, even pills to help prevent erection while it heals. (Babies get none of this) If your hubby feels so strongly about circumcision, you can agree to offer to pay for the procedure for your son when he turns 18, if he decides that he would like it done. -NebDid you ever have conflict with your spouse/signifigant other about?
A good settlement is leaving the baby intact. That is the way they were made, the way they were born, it's normal and natural. It is not the anti-circumcision parent winning. It is postponing the decision and leaving it up to the owner of the penis, who can choose to get it done at any age. I think that's a fair compromise. And if the pro-circumcision partner can't see that an intact penis is normal, and not circumcising isn't a choice it's just the way the baby is made, then it sounds like they have some pretty big issues. The partner who doesn't wnat the procedure done should make their objection vocal - then doctors can't do it. Leaving the boy intact is giving him the choice - it's his penis, not that of either partner.
I dont think it needs to be done, my husband wasn't so that pretty much settled it there, we did discuss it but we figured that if we didnt, we would avoid the whole ';why is daddy different then me'; talk, so i would suggest talking it over with your spouse, and coming to a mutual decision, but i think your best bet might be to settle it like i did, what daddy has baby boy has if you catch my drift. And Cheekymummy doesn't know what she is talking about when it comes to military service and circumcision. My husband isn't circumcised and he is a U.S. Marine and has been for years!
yes - i showed him this video: http://video.yahoo.com/watch/352478
no. its considered a needless, painful op in the uk. unless religion or a medical problem dictates it. its living in the dark ages to believe it needs done when the uk has not done it for a long time and so medical evidence exists to support not doing it. lots of it!
why not chop their ears off so they don't have ear wax? surely thats cleaner?!
No conflict. Went with what dad has. Not very common in Australia anymore anyway.
no we discussed it but he flat out said no and so did i
Yes we argued alot about it. He wanted it done and I didnt. I think that it is too painless and needless. I also dont think that I have the right to make that decision for him (which we both agreed on) so we are leaving it to him.
its considered cleaner but things can go wrong so i wouldnt do it unless its for medical reasons.
The US seems to be the only country that mutilates its baby boys for non-religious reasons. Even many jewish Dr.'s are now deciding against circumcising their sons or grandsons.
In my opinion, it is done in the US routinely simply because it's a multi-million dollar business.
If the foreskin served no purpose, then he would not have been BORN with it and the foreskin actually can PREVENT infection during infancy and childhood.
Do a lot of research both FOR and AGAINST before you get it done, and if do choose not to, then don't be talked into it by the nursing staff, as once this procedure is done, it is very hard to have it reversed later on.
We are not in the dark ages anymore where bathing was hardly ever done. As long as it's kept clean there should be no problems.
80% of the world's male population is UNcircumcised.
A LOT of my family members were/are in the military and they did NOT have to be circumcised to join.
Not really. My husband has no opinion on the subject and I chose to leave our boys intact.
As for that answerer who says you NEED to be cir'd to join the Army, Navy, etc., my dad is intact and he was a marine.
Yes. My DH is for circ for the ';look like daddy'; reason. I asked him if he knows what his dads penis looks like...he said no. Good argument on his part, huh.
I told him...not our penis, not our job to do cosmetic, barbaric surgery on it. He told me my other sons were cut, so why am I against it now? Because I have learned about it and know it to be 99% unnessecary now and that my other sons would not have been put through it had I know these things then.
This is touchy subject for everyone. They are either for it or against it. I'm for it, i have a three year old boy and a 4 month old girl... Before we made the decision i researched everything i could. But it did come down to the facts for us!!!!
1. It is cleaner
2. We wouldn't be able to show him how to clean it
3. We didn't know how to
4. We didn't feel comfortable folding the skin back and cleaning it
5. My pop was 18 when he wanted to get done as he got a really bad infection and he said he felt like dying... (easier to be done when they are young as they dont remember it.)
6. His dad was too...
7. When they are older if they want to be in the navy, army etc, they HAVE to be circumcised for health reasons
It is completely your choice and you will find people that are against it but it is you and your partners choice.
They do out a numbing cream on it and after the procedure is done you just put castor oil cream on it. But we never really faught over it as i researched it first and took the points to him. He agreed that we got it done... Hope it helped
I don't have a son yet, but if me and my future spouse were to disagree on this, I would first make him read up on it and why it is unnescary, including watching videos of the procedure. If my spouse insisted that it be done, I would simply put my foot down on the issue and refuse. If you do not cxonsent to the procedure, the other spouse can nOT legally override you. You just need to be sure that all doctors involved with your sons care know that you disagree with your spoouse, and that you do NOT give consent, and they won't touch your son. I highly doubt that hubby will take you to court over this, so that should be the end of it.
Looking like Daddy is probably the stupidest argument- the fact is that most grown men don't know if their father is cut or not. Even if your son dOES notice, its a VERY simply explanation (Daddy had a little operation...) really, they notice that Daddy is bigger and hairier first.
The second worst idea is to go with Dad because ';he's the only one with a penis'; If your hubby was cut in infancy, he simpy doesn't know. YOU are the only spouse with intact genitals, afterall!
I would err on the side of caution in this case and NOT cut. Point out to your hubby that it is never to late to have the procedure performed, and that an adult gets full anesthesia, post op pain care, even pills to help prevent erection while it heals. (Babies get none of this) If your hubby feels so strongly about circumcision, you can agree to offer to pay for the procedure for your son when he turns 18, if he decides that he would like it done. -NebDid you ever have conflict with your spouse/signifigant other about?
A good settlement is leaving the baby intact. That is the way they were made, the way they were born, it's normal and natural. It is not the anti-circumcision parent winning. It is postponing the decision and leaving it up to the owner of the penis, who can choose to get it done at any age. I think that's a fair compromise. And if the pro-circumcision partner can't see that an intact penis is normal, and not circumcising isn't a choice it's just the way the baby is made, then it sounds like they have some pretty big issues. The partner who doesn't wnat the procedure done should make their objection vocal - then doctors can't do it. Leaving the boy intact is giving him the choice - it's his penis, not that of either partner.
I dont think it needs to be done, my husband wasn't so that pretty much settled it there, we did discuss it but we figured that if we didnt, we would avoid the whole ';why is daddy different then me'; talk, so i would suggest talking it over with your spouse, and coming to a mutual decision, but i think your best bet might be to settle it like i did, what daddy has baby boy has if you catch my drift. And Cheekymummy doesn't know what she is talking about when it comes to military service and circumcision. My husband isn't circumcised and he is a U.S. Marine and has been for years!
yes - i showed him this video: http://video.yahoo.com/watch/352478
no. its considered a needless, painful op in the uk. unless religion or a medical problem dictates it. its living in the dark ages to believe it needs done when the uk has not done it for a long time and so medical evidence exists to support not doing it. lots of it!
why not chop their ears off so they don't have ear wax? surely thats cleaner?!
No conflict. Went with what dad has. Not very common in Australia anymore anyway.
no we discussed it but he flat out said no and so did i
Yes we argued alot about it. He wanted it done and I didnt. I think that it is too painless and needless. I also dont think that I have the right to make that decision for him (which we both agreed on) so we are leaving it to him.
its considered cleaner but things can go wrong so i wouldnt do it unless its for medical reasons.
The US seems to be the only country that mutilates its baby boys for non-religious reasons. Even many jewish Dr.'s are now deciding against circumcising their sons or grandsons.
In my opinion, it is done in the US routinely simply because it's a multi-million dollar business.
If the foreskin served no purpose, then he would not have been BORN with it and the foreskin actually can PREVENT infection during infancy and childhood.
Do a lot of research both FOR and AGAINST before you get it done, and if do choose not to, then don't be talked into it by the nursing staff, as once this procedure is done, it is very hard to have it reversed later on.
We are not in the dark ages anymore where bathing was hardly ever done. As long as it's kept clean there should be no problems.
80% of the world's male population is UNcircumcised.
A LOT of my family members were/are in the military and they did NOT have to be circumcised to join.
Not really. My husband has no opinion on the subject and I chose to leave our boys intact.
As for that answerer who says you NEED to be cir'd to join the Army, Navy, etc., my dad is intact and he was a marine.
Yes. My DH is for circ for the ';look like daddy'; reason. I asked him if he knows what his dads penis looks like...he said no. Good argument on his part, huh.
I told him...not our penis, not our job to do cosmetic, barbaric surgery on it. He told me my other sons were cut, so why am I against it now? Because I have learned about it and know it to be 99% unnessecary now and that my other sons would not have been put through it had I know these things then.
This is touchy subject for everyone. They are either for it or against it. I'm for it, i have a three year old boy and a 4 month old girl... Before we made the decision i researched everything i could. But it did come down to the facts for us!!!!
1. It is cleaner
2. We wouldn't be able to show him how to clean it
3. We didn't know how to
4. We didn't feel comfortable folding the skin back and cleaning it
5. My pop was 18 when he wanted to get done as he got a really bad infection and he said he felt like dying... (easier to be done when they are young as they dont remember it.)
6. His dad was too...
7. When they are older if they want to be in the navy, army etc, they HAVE to be circumcised for health reasons
It is completely your choice and you will find people that are against it but it is you and your partners choice.
They do out a numbing cream on it and after the procedure is done you just put castor oil cream on it. But we never really faught over it as i researched it first and took the points to him. He agreed that we got it done... Hope it helped
How long does petitioning an LPR's spouse from the Philippines take?
Petitions for a spouse of a LPR is under the Family Class 2A. As per Visa Bulletin for January 2009, all applications filed on or before May 15, 2004 will become current. That means currently, it is a wait of almost 5 years. Meantime, she can apply for a B2 to visit you.How long does petitioning an LPR's spouse from the Philippines take?
About 6 to 8 months, as long as all your papers are in order, fees are paid and medical review is done.
About 6 to 8 months, as long as all your papers are in order, fees are paid and medical review is done.
My spouse who wish to travel in korea including my kid what was the requirements?
please help me in this matter and i will be very thankful.ThanksMy spouse who wish to travel in korea including my kid what was the requirements?
iron.lun
People come here to get the answers to their questions. Do you need to be so rude? Why should someone have to learn English to post here? It is an international site.
engrabg
I don't know what country you are in, but I am giving you a link to the website of the Korean Embassy in Washington DC. On the left side of the page you will find a link to the visa page,and that will tell you everything you want to know. Many countries do not need a visa to visit Korea. May be your spouse and kid don't. It depends on their citizenship. That page will tell you.
If they do need visas, the application forms can be downloaded from the Embassy website to, and they are not complicated.
Best of Luck. My spouse who wish to travel in korea including my kid what was the requirements?
Post where you are from and you are likely to get a little more accurate answer.
Asian girl huh?? Yeah thats nice.
learn English then post a questionrimmel applying eyeshadow
iron.lun
People come here to get the answers to their questions. Do you need to be so rude? Why should someone have to learn English to post here? It is an international site.
engrabg
I don't know what country you are in, but I am giving you a link to the website of the Korean Embassy in Washington DC. On the left side of the page you will find a link to the visa page,and that will tell you everything you want to know. Many countries do not need a visa to visit Korea. May be your spouse and kid don't. It depends on their citizenship. That page will tell you.
If they do need visas, the application forms can be downloaded from the Embassy website to, and they are not complicated.
Best of Luck. My spouse who wish to travel in korea including my kid what was the requirements?
Post where you are from and you are likely to get a little more accurate answer.
Asian girl huh?? Yeah thats nice.
learn English then post a question
You have divorced & remarried, but your 1st spouse wants you back. If you're Christian, what should you do?
Particularly if your 1st spouse wants you to come back and live in a Christian marriage?
(Assume that infidelity played no role in the divorce.)
Since Jesus said that if you divorce someone and remarry, you're committing adultery, what is the appropriate Christian response to this circumstance?
Can you say you've truly repented from the divorce, join an evangelical church, and remain in good standing? Or do you need to leave your 2nd marriage and return to your 1st spouse?You have divorced %26amp; remarried, but your 1st spouse wants you back. If you're Christian, what should you do?
If you are remarried even though there was no adultery in your first marriage, you have committed adultery by the fact that you are married to the 2nd one because the bible only says that a divorce is allowed if one has committed adultery. You divorced, married again,( assuming you consomated the marriage) and therefore your first union is severed and if you repented, your second union will be okay. So going back to your first would be wrong and would be considered adultery again and they are no different than a stranger in Gods eyes.You have divorced %26amp; remarried, but your 1st spouse wants you back. If you're Christian, what should you do?
My mother married her first husband and had three children by him. He was always beating her and only coming in to get her pregnant again. Finally, she met my father and he married her after she got divorced (of which he helped pay for). Then a minister told my mother that she was living in sin and she had to go back to her first husband. Which was totally wrong because he had committed adultery way too many times to count. But she went back and left my father, after that the first husband beat her again, so she went back to my father. Then they had me and two other children and lived together 46 years before God took her home. And she was a good Christian woman that taught Sunday school and played an instrument and sang in church solos. She took us to church every time she could get there too.
I remarried my ex husband because I was told that it was biblical to do so instead of getting another husband. But it didn't work out either, so we divorced the second time.
God only allowed divorce due to the hardness of their hearts. Sin complicates everything. Follow your heart. I do not think anyone would leave their current spouse unless they were miserable and they loved the other person more and... oh my head hurts.
We will not be given in marriage in heaven, so there are no eternal consequence to this, but barring extenuating circumstances I would stay put, and realize what a mess sin could make of my life.
if you believed in Jesus that much, why did you divorce and remarry in the first place? it sounds like you miss the first person and want to come up with any excuse to get back with them. why dont you reflect on whatever reasons you had for getting a divorce. i pity whoever you married second as you sound very selfish and irresponsible.
Wow, stop getting married. You'd walk away from your second marriage due to this? That's not very nice to the second husband, how would you feel if the situation was reversed. Forget citing the Bible on this, its your lack of morals and commitment putting you in this position, am I right?? I sure hope your not dragging children through all of this.
too late if you divorced and it was not due to adultery you committed sin, it can be forgive through Christ. So whatever choice He guides you to is the one that should be made.
The Gospel of John Chapter 4 verses 16-19. Christ's words not mine.
I would stay in my second marriage.
Did you ever consolidate God when you divorced in first place?
Whatever you want.
(Assume that infidelity played no role in the divorce.)
Since Jesus said that if you divorce someone and remarry, you're committing adultery, what is the appropriate Christian response to this circumstance?
Can you say you've truly repented from the divorce, join an evangelical church, and remain in good standing? Or do you need to leave your 2nd marriage and return to your 1st spouse?You have divorced %26amp; remarried, but your 1st spouse wants you back. If you're Christian, what should you do?
If you are remarried even though there was no adultery in your first marriage, you have committed adultery by the fact that you are married to the 2nd one because the bible only says that a divorce is allowed if one has committed adultery. You divorced, married again,( assuming you consomated the marriage) and therefore your first union is severed and if you repented, your second union will be okay. So going back to your first would be wrong and would be considered adultery again and they are no different than a stranger in Gods eyes.You have divorced %26amp; remarried, but your 1st spouse wants you back. If you're Christian, what should you do?
My mother married her first husband and had three children by him. He was always beating her and only coming in to get her pregnant again. Finally, she met my father and he married her after she got divorced (of which he helped pay for). Then a minister told my mother that she was living in sin and she had to go back to her first husband. Which was totally wrong because he had committed adultery way too many times to count. But she went back and left my father, after that the first husband beat her again, so she went back to my father. Then they had me and two other children and lived together 46 years before God took her home. And she was a good Christian woman that taught Sunday school and played an instrument and sang in church solos. She took us to church every time she could get there too.
I remarried my ex husband because I was told that it was biblical to do so instead of getting another husband. But it didn't work out either, so we divorced the second time.
God only allowed divorce due to the hardness of their hearts. Sin complicates everything. Follow your heart. I do not think anyone would leave their current spouse unless they were miserable and they loved the other person more and... oh my head hurts.
We will not be given in marriage in heaven, so there are no eternal consequence to this, but barring extenuating circumstances I would stay put, and realize what a mess sin could make of my life.
if you believed in Jesus that much, why did you divorce and remarry in the first place? it sounds like you miss the first person and want to come up with any excuse to get back with them. why dont you reflect on whatever reasons you had for getting a divorce. i pity whoever you married second as you sound very selfish and irresponsible.
Wow, stop getting married. You'd walk away from your second marriage due to this? That's not very nice to the second husband, how would you feel if the situation was reversed. Forget citing the Bible on this, its your lack of morals and commitment putting you in this position, am I right?? I sure hope your not dragging children through all of this.
too late if you divorced and it was not due to adultery you committed sin, it can be forgive through Christ. So whatever choice He guides you to is the one that should be made.
The Gospel of John Chapter 4 verses 16-19. Christ's words not mine.
I would stay in my second marriage.
Did you ever consolidate God when you divorced in first place?
Whatever you want.
My spouse is petitioning for me to come to the states, do you think it's best to hire a lawyer for the paper?
works, or just pay the $400 government charge and do it on line our self, anyone with a serious and valid opinion would be greatly appreciated.thanks.My spouse is petitioning for me to come to the states, do you think it's best to hire a lawyer for the paper?
Hi I went through that myself. Actually yesterday they told me I'm getting my greencard in about 10 or so days.
Anyway we did hire a lawyer. Cause it makes it easier they fill out everything for you, so you know there are no mistakes and if there is they take the blame not you.
It makes the process easier and sometimes faster. But you don't need it.
Yes it makes it easier, but it is also expensive. If that's not a problem I would say just go with the lawyer. But if you can't afford to put that much money into it I would suggest you do it yourself. It's not that hard but you do have to check it a lot of times to see there are no misspellings and also check around the internet, to read about it in all the different websites where they give you pointers on what to do. It'll make it easier for you.
If you have any questions you can contact me through here.
Best of luck!!!!My spouse is petitioning for me to come to the states, do you think it's best to hire a lawyer for the paper?
i petitioned to get my husband to the us. we didnt hire a lawyer. we DID go to an immigration help center that charges minimal fees to fill out the paperwork and answer all my questions. everything worked out perfectly for us.
Hi I went through that myself. Actually yesterday they told me I'm getting my greencard in about 10 or so days.
Anyway we did hire a lawyer. Cause it makes it easier they fill out everything for you, so you know there are no mistakes and if there is they take the blame not you.
It makes the process easier and sometimes faster. But you don't need it.
Yes it makes it easier, but it is also expensive. If that's not a problem I would say just go with the lawyer. But if you can't afford to put that much money into it I would suggest you do it yourself. It's not that hard but you do have to check it a lot of times to see there are no misspellings and also check around the internet, to read about it in all the different websites where they give you pointers on what to do. It'll make it easier for you.
If you have any questions you can contact me through here.
Best of luck!!!!My spouse is petitioning for me to come to the states, do you think it's best to hire a lawyer for the paper?
i petitioned to get my husband to the us. we didnt hire a lawyer. we DID go to an immigration help center that charges minimal fees to fill out the paperwork and answer all my questions. everything worked out perfectly for us.
Can child support enforcement agency make your spouse pay your support?
If you are asked to pay child support but are currently unemployed can they make your spouse pay child support for your child?Can child support enforcement agency make your spouse pay your support?
In my state if you don't pay...you go to jail. Not having a job means nothing. Your new spouse will not be held responsible for your child support.Can child support enforcement agency make your spouse pay your support?
I guess it depends on the state because my dad is disabled %26amp; unable to work therefore they do make his wife pay the support. This is in Indiana. If soemone knows this is illegal please let me know because I think it's worng also. He's (well his wife is) paying back support on my 1/2 brother who's 33 years old now!
No. That's all on you.
In my state if you don't pay...you go to jail. Not having a job means nothing. Your new spouse will not be held responsible for your child support.Can child support enforcement agency make your spouse pay your support?
I guess it depends on the state because my dad is disabled %26amp; unable to work therefore they do make his wife pay the support. This is in Indiana. If soemone knows this is illegal please let me know because I think it's worng also. He's (well his wife is) paying back support on my 1/2 brother who's 33 years old now!
No. That's all on you.
Can child support enforcement agency make your spouse pay your support?
If you are asked to pay child support but are currently unemployed can they make your spouse pay child support for your child?Can child support enforcement agency make your spouse pay your support?
In my state if you don't pay...you go to jail. Not having a job means nothing. Your new spouse will not be held responsible for your child support.Can child support enforcement agency make your spouse pay your support?
I guess it depends on the state because my dad is disabled %26amp; unable to work therefore they do make his wife pay the support. This is in Indiana. If soemone knows this is illegal please let me know because I think it's worng also. He's (well his wife is) paying back support on my 1/2 brother who's 33 years old now!
No. That's all on you.
In my state if you don't pay...you go to jail. Not having a job means nothing. Your new spouse will not be held responsible for your child support.Can child support enforcement agency make your spouse pay your support?
I guess it depends on the state because my dad is disabled %26amp; unable to work therefore they do make his wife pay the support. This is in Indiana. If soemone knows this is illegal please let me know because I think it's worng also. He's (well his wife is) paying back support on my 1/2 brother who's 33 years old now!
No. That's all on you.
Why is it that most pals who get along with staff at work and peers do have it rough with their spouse/family?
Most guys and ladies out there who are outgoing in social places do not reflect the same in their homes. Infact they are monsters to their spouses and close family members including their own children. Do you members to this forum have any scientific proven theory about this social aspect?Why is it that most pals who get along with staff at work and peers do have it rough with their spouse/family?
I'm sorry, I must disagree with you that it is *most*, although I definitely know the type you are talking about.
Some people who are friendly and outgoing have wonderful family relationships, this I know for a fact.
But it is also very true that there is a 'street devil, house angel' type that makes life very tough for the people they are supposed to love.
I'm sure there are members in the Psychology section who would have more information about this phenomenon.
The people I have known who are like this were all very troubled people in many ways, had suffered abuse and had become abusers themselves.
If you or someone you know is experiencing mistreatment at the hands of someone like this, it is especially hard, because so many outsiders have no clue the person is really a monster at home, and think the spouse and family must be so lucky to have such a great apouse/parent.
But, you are NOT alone!
I've included a couple of links to organisations which can help people caught in this type of situation (see below).
Best luck and good wishes :-)Why is it that most pals who get along with staff at work and peers do have it rough with their spouse/family?
You can not answer such questions using rationality
and logic. The Hinduism says that such behaviour
is a result of their Karma.
I disagree, completely. As in the first reply, my husband and I are both outgoing at work. We have a good relationship at home, open communication, laughter, fun.
I don't know where you get your theory but I can said it's a hairbrained idea.
All people; in general; lack knowledge and awareness about self in themselves.
They are not aware that like money; for earning which; they force to drive themselves to get along with peers and staff at work place and out side; they also have to earn the trust, faith, and confidence of their family members in them selves and for them selves.
They take the trust, faith and confidence of their family members towards them self as gurenteed for themselves; and as always forthcoming towards themselves; come what may; and as and when they desire for it or demand it from them.
When such knowledge prevails in the minds of all in a family; then expectations also rise in all without ever being fullfilled; and the result of such high and unfullfilled expectations; becomes the cause of monestrous actions and activities of the self; by the self.
The cause of any thing is also the effect of that thing; and thus not only lack of knowledge and awareness of self in self prevails;but also ignorence and ignorent use of the awatreness of self prevails,
I think your theory is incorrect. Both my husband and I are outgoing at work and share a healthy, wonderful relationship at home. We get along very well with the occassional battle but that's expected.
I don't anyone like you speak of. I think your personality in general is reflected in the home and at work or in public. Maybe shy people will be more open at home that at work but outside of that I don't see it.
Now those that are abused at home or have a miserable relationship might seek friendship outside of the home. Maybe they will appear more extroverted to hide their feelings but I think that's a stretch.
Scientific theory, no, i don't have, but i guess the reason for that is most outgoing guys and ladies are able to be themselves when around friends. There is acceptance in the crowd while more criticism at home.
I'm sorry, I must disagree with you that it is *most*, although I definitely know the type you are talking about.
Some people who are friendly and outgoing have wonderful family relationships, this I know for a fact.
But it is also very true that there is a 'street devil, house angel' type that makes life very tough for the people they are supposed to love.
I'm sure there are members in the Psychology section who would have more information about this phenomenon.
The people I have known who are like this were all very troubled people in many ways, had suffered abuse and had become abusers themselves.
If you or someone you know is experiencing mistreatment at the hands of someone like this, it is especially hard, because so many outsiders have no clue the person is really a monster at home, and think the spouse and family must be so lucky to have such a great apouse/parent.
But, you are NOT alone!
I've included a couple of links to organisations which can help people caught in this type of situation (see below).
Best luck and good wishes :-)Why is it that most pals who get along with staff at work and peers do have it rough with their spouse/family?
You can not answer such questions using rationality
and logic. The Hinduism says that such behaviour
is a result of their Karma.
I disagree, completely. As in the first reply, my husband and I are both outgoing at work. We have a good relationship at home, open communication, laughter, fun.
I don't know where you get your theory but I can said it's a hairbrained idea.
All people; in general; lack knowledge and awareness about self in themselves.
They are not aware that like money; for earning which; they force to drive themselves to get along with peers and staff at work place and out side; they also have to earn the trust, faith, and confidence of their family members in them selves and for them selves.
They take the trust, faith and confidence of their family members towards them self as gurenteed for themselves; and as always forthcoming towards themselves; come what may; and as and when they desire for it or demand it from them.
When such knowledge prevails in the minds of all in a family; then expectations also rise in all without ever being fullfilled; and the result of such high and unfullfilled expectations; becomes the cause of monestrous actions and activities of the self; by the self.
The cause of any thing is also the effect of that thing; and thus not only lack of knowledge and awareness of self in self prevails;but also ignorence and ignorent use of the awatreness of self prevails,
I think your theory is incorrect. Both my husband and I are outgoing at work and share a healthy, wonderful relationship at home. We get along very well with the occassional battle but that's expected.
I don't anyone like you speak of. I think your personality in general is reflected in the home and at work or in public. Maybe shy people will be more open at home that at work but outside of that I don't see it.
Now those that are abused at home or have a miserable relationship might seek friendship outside of the home. Maybe they will appear more extroverted to hide their feelings but I think that's a stretch.
Scientific theory, no, i don't have, but i guess the reason for that is most outgoing guys and ladies are able to be themselves when around friends. There is acceptance in the crowd while more criticism at home.
If spouse was a non resident alien at any time of the year, can you file head of household?
My then, British boyfriend, came over to the US under the VWP and intended to stay for 90 days. In that time (May 17, 2007), we got married. So, from what i gather, he was a non resident alien for part of 2007. So by definition, i should be able to claim head of household from what i understand....am i right? If i'm not, can someone explain it to me?If spouse was a non resident alien at any time of the year, can you file head of household?
Sorry. Even if he did not have a legal immigrant status, the fact that you were married and living together disallows your claiming head of household tax filing status. You can only file as head of household if all of the following apply:
* You were unmarried or met the requirements to be considered unmarried ... as of the last day of the year.
* You paid more than half the costs of keeping up your home for the year.
* Your home was the main home for you and a qualifying person who lived with you for more than half the year.
* The qualifying person met the requirements to be a qualifying child or qualifying relative.
* You were entitled to a dependent exemption credit for your qualifying person. However, you do not have to be entitled to a dependent exemption credit for your qualifying child if you were unmarried and your qualifying child was also unmarried.
* You (not he) were not a nonresident alien at any time during the year.
Here is a link to a good self test for head of household status:
http://www.ftb.ca.gov/individuals/hoh/se鈥?/a>If spouse was a non resident alien at any time of the year, can you file head of household?
You really should ask the IRS.
1-800-829-1040
As pointed out, you have to have a qualifying person, which a spouse can never be. It doesn't matter if they are a citizen or not.rimmel applying eyeshadow
Sorry. Even if he did not have a legal immigrant status, the fact that you were married and living together disallows your claiming head of household tax filing status. You can only file as head of household if all of the following apply:
* You were unmarried or met the requirements to be considered unmarried ... as of the last day of the year.
* You paid more than half the costs of keeping up your home for the year.
* Your home was the main home for you and a qualifying person who lived with you for more than half the year.
* The qualifying person met the requirements to be a qualifying child or qualifying relative.
* You were entitled to a dependent exemption credit for your qualifying person. However, you do not have to be entitled to a dependent exemption credit for your qualifying child if you were unmarried and your qualifying child was also unmarried.
* You (not he) were not a nonresident alien at any time during the year.
Here is a link to a good self test for head of household status:
http://www.ftb.ca.gov/individuals/hoh/se鈥?/a>If spouse was a non resident alien at any time of the year, can you file head of household?
You really should ask the IRS.
1-800-829-1040
As pointed out, you have to have a qualifying person, which a spouse can never be. It doesn't matter if they are a citizen or not.
Do you think it's bad for a woman to speak negatively about her spouse to a girl friend?
For example his bad habits, tendencies, etc?Do you think it's bad for a woman to speak negatively about her spouse to a girl friend?
I think most of us do that, but (even though I do it myself), I think it's unhealthy; it seems to make us focus more on the negative and make mountains of molehills.Do you think it's bad for a woman to speak negatively about her spouse to a girl friend?
Sometimes its neccessary to vent to someone about frustrating things in a relationship. It's healthy and the advice or just the listening ear can help a problematic situation with your spouse. However, degrading or namecalling of your spouse to others is not appropriate. You can express your frustrations without disrespecting him/her and causing others to lose respect for him/her also.
I do talk to my girlfriends about my husband when he makes me mad, but i don't tell all. Somethings in a relationship should be kept quiet.
But then again my husband and I really don't have many issues and so you know, if your husbands purposely does things to annoy you, he loves you. Mine has admitted to doing that with me and he loves me more then anything in the world. He just likes to bicker with me and then make up.
i say feel free to discuss things with your friends.. just don't get too detailed, how would you like it if all his friends knew every detail about you
No. All women ***** about their men to their friends. It's just kind of a fact of life. If I need someone to talk to about him, I'll go to a best friend. I don't ***** about him to all my friends, just a select few I trust not to say anything and to listen and help me if I need help.
I think most of us do that, but (even though I do it myself), I think it's unhealthy; it seems to make us focus more on the negative and make mountains of molehills.Do you think it's bad for a woman to speak negatively about her spouse to a girl friend?
Sometimes its neccessary to vent to someone about frustrating things in a relationship. It's healthy and the advice or just the listening ear can help a problematic situation with your spouse. However, degrading or namecalling of your spouse to others is not appropriate. You can express your frustrations without disrespecting him/her and causing others to lose respect for him/her also.
I do talk to my girlfriends about my husband when he makes me mad, but i don't tell all. Somethings in a relationship should be kept quiet.
But then again my husband and I really don't have many issues and so you know, if your husbands purposely does things to annoy you, he loves you. Mine has admitted to doing that with me and he loves me more then anything in the world. He just likes to bicker with me and then make up.
i say feel free to discuss things with your friends.. just don't get too detailed, how would you like it if all his friends knew every detail about you
No. All women ***** about their men to their friends. It's just kind of a fact of life. If I need someone to talk to about him, I'll go to a best friend. I don't ***** about him to all my friends, just a select few I trust not to say anything and to listen and help me if I need help.
I want to know how much is the minimun required income to bring a spouse to the USA?
I just want to know how much income its required for bringing to live to USA a spouse? THANKSI want to know how much is the minimun required income to bring a spouse to the USA?
To sponsor a foreigner (1) you must demonstrate an income of $17,500 per year. If you have children then the amount increases.
http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/I-864P.p鈥?/a>I want to know how much is the minimun required income to bring a spouse to the USA?
My spouse sponsored me to apply for a green card, but i was already here as a student. It depends on your household, it starts from $ 17 500 if you are single and goes up. You will need to fill an immigrant petition form I-130 and I-864 to sponsor your spouse.
I think there is like a 25,000 yearly income required. But it doesn't have to be the spouse of the immigrant who earns that much. Because you can get a sponsor for the income part.
There is no minimum income for spouse. There is one for fiance(e). It is usually the poverty level.
I think the determining factor is the immigration status of the US resident spouse.
There is no minimum income requirement.
To sponsor a foreigner (1) you must demonstrate an income of $17,500 per year. If you have children then the amount increases.
http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/I-864P.p鈥?/a>I want to know how much is the minimun required income to bring a spouse to the USA?
My spouse sponsored me to apply for a green card, but i was already here as a student. It depends on your household, it starts from $ 17 500 if you are single and goes up. You will need to fill an immigrant petition form I-130 and I-864 to sponsor your spouse.
I think there is like a 25,000 yearly income required. But it doesn't have to be the spouse of the immigrant who earns that much. Because you can get a sponsor for the income part.
There is no minimum income for spouse. There is one for fiance(e). It is usually the poverty level.
I think the determining factor is the immigration status of the US resident spouse.
There is no minimum income requirement.
How is it possible to see your spouse as household partner and intimate partner?
Before we lived together I was very attracted to my husband. I wanted to sleep with him all the time, I wanted to be with him all the time. Once we moved int together that started to change. It became about sharing household duties, financs, etc. When he slacks on his duties, I feel as though I don't want anything to do with him sexually. I know you shouldn't withhold sex in a marriage because you're angry or disappointed with them, but how do you feel like doing it with them when you're not happy with them? If he kept up his half of the bargain with chores and kids and finances (I keep track of them, he spends), I think I'd find him more attractive.
We've only been married 3 years, living together for 4. How do other people separate those feelings of disappointment you have towards your spouse from the feelings of attraciveness you have towards them?How is it possible to see your spouse as household partner and intimate partner?
It's taken awhile but we are in a good place now. He's doing the laundry at this moment - not because I asked him to, but because he wants to.
We went through hell to get to this point as we were separated due to his infidelity. When we agreed to work things out, he came back with a ';little'; more compassion. But it took a little more refinement.
I broke down the finances on paper and divided by 3 (his son was living with us at the time). They didn't like this at all. But they sat on it for awhile. DH and I worked out something more agreeable about the finances.
Then came the help around the house issue. I simply told him that like the finances, maintaining the household was just too much for one person and that I needed his help. I had tears in my eves because althought I was calm, I was also frustrated. He seemed to ';get'; it about that time and has been helping ever since.How is it possible to see your spouse as household partner and intimate partner?
You shouldn't need to seperate them. You need to sit him down and explain the very points you've just explained in here. He's a guy, and guys love sex. so chances are he will change. Everything should be 50/50 in a relationship. If he's not pulling his weight, then let him know. Guys tend to slack off once they have you in the same house. basically they feel like they've won you now so they can do whatever they want. Let him know this isn't the case.
This is right up my alley. As I am the slacker. I am in recovery of being passive in the household duties and am turning over a new leaf. I think I am going to get alot more intimate contact w/ my wife over it. It's a husband's responsibility to make his wife happy and to put them first. While the wife shouldn't withhold, the husband should try to put his wife's needs ahead of his own. My wife said today that she is hopeful that our marriage is going to work (we are separated now). I can safely say that I get more positive feeback when I help out. As far as your question goes, it's pretty hard as sex starts ';in the kitchen';.
Maybe he ';slacks on his duties'; because he feels that no matter what he does, you'll be disappointed in him anyways('cause you'll be thinking of the times he ';slacked'; even when he is ';behaving'; like a good little boy). Come on, do you honestly think you are the perfect one in this marriage? Haven't you ever let your hubby down in some way? Get over it. I'm sure he picks up the ';slack'; in other areas when he ';slacks'; on something else.
Male or female... we all have different sexual desires, more often than not, they are not the same as our partner. Interesting enough... it takes about 4 years and the sex declines about 50% and about 20% every year after, more for women than men.
oh my goodness, start by getting over being mad at him when he ';slacks'; on his duties; marriage is not a 50/50 deal; sometimes it's 110 / 40; sometimes 40 / 60...sometimes 100 / 100 .....
Is it really worth it to get mad because he didn't take the trash our or do the dishes or whatever ';duties'; you have assigned to him.......
GREAT QUESTION. I will be watching for answers too, I have the same issue gping on and I though it was just me. I find it hard to be attracted to someone you've come to regard as lazy or as unappreciative..
Anytime you relate having intimacy issues tied to household chores there is something else wrong here. I think you are looking at having sex as a duty not the act of making love. You need to separate the two things. You need to have some frank discussions with him about helping with the responsibilities and set some ground rules and don't let things get out of hand for so long that it starts to build resentment. As far as the intimacy issues, get some romance going again. Talk to him about the way you two were while dating. Remind him of some of the things you miss that he did back then. If you can get the spark going again it can help him realize how helping you around the house can give you two more time to increase your passionate time together.
You probably could solve this problem between the two of you, tell him how you feel, and that you would like to make your marriage better. Let him know that when you get help you have so much more energy ';just for him';.
Honestly, you can't separate the feelings...
My rational is that you are drained...emotionally and physically...
I think that the emotional stresses or having to be physically worn out are what is keeping you from bonding with your husband to the point that you feel like being intimate...
I firmly believe in marriage counseling because men and women have got to learn how to communicate...
My husband and I went thought the same thing...what my husband had to learn about our relationship is that we have got to communicate...and he has had to learn to put himself into my world...and learn to meet the needs that I have and not the ones that he thinks I need...
So, I would suggest some type of mediation so that you all are able to communicate the needs that you have...
When your needs are met emotionally, it makes a world of difference...
Once again I think you need to voice your concerns and if he isn't receptive give him an ultimatum. Let him know how much his habits (laziness) bothers you and why.
If he still doesn't get it or seems to not care than you have a serious decision to make unless you want to be in an unhappy marriage.
Best of luck
Your life partner is both things; as are you.
Sex is wonderful. But life is...reality, too.
Deal with the fact that you must find a balance between the two.
We've been married for almost 37 years, my dear.
Don't focus so much on your ';expectations.';
We are all human. We have things in life we must do.
And then, there are the things we most love to do.
Find your balance.
Read the book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura. I think you can find some beneficial information in there.
Good luck!
You cant. It all runs together as what you think of him as a man. If he is taking care of his part, then u feel he is responsible. If he is slacking, u think of him as the opposite. Psychologically, women pick men who will be good providers. Its programmed into our brains. We look at physique (protection), we look at interaction with children (being a father) and we look at responsibility (being a provider).
Its when and area is being neglected, that it ruins the entire package.
I think its time for a heart to heart.
He needs to know how we think.
Maybe if he knows he is disappointing you by neglecting his responsibility, then he will attempt to make a change and get things packaged back up....so to speak..lol
Hope it all works out.....Good luck.
';When he slacks on his duties, I feel as though I don't want anything to do with him sexually.';
You got it twisted. Stop being a control freak.
I am glad I am my wife's lover. And not her ';honey do'; boy.
Tell him everything that is bothering you and that you would like to work on it. I've been where you are, it is very hard to be attracted to someone that your angry with or doesnt appreciate the things you do for him or your end of the bargain. Nothing wrong with it. Just use direct communication and let him know that you don't want to be stuck doing everything, and give him a sweet hint that once everything simmers down, you'll have more energy to put forth towards your sex life.
It is a give and take. I have learned with my husband not to expect to much. He does take care of all the finances. He does do some household chores. I dont push the issues. I slack once in awhile to show him what it would look like. then he gets off his butt and pitches in. He is also always there for the kids. sports and musicals and anything related to school. So you need to get past what he does not do. And talk to him if you really thinks he is spending to much. Or not spending enough time with the kids. Good Luck.
Well...see that's the problem with 50-50 marriages. You become too much alike. There is no difference in the man and the woman. The roles are the same. How BORING. Romance is in the difference in the masculine and the feminine. OPPOSITES attract. If I was you, I would try living in traditional marital roles. Read ';The Surrendered Wife'; or ';Fascinating Womanhood';. If you are a Christian, read, ';The Politically Incorrect Wife';, or if you really want to put a charge in it, check out the website Christian Domestic Discipline at www.christiandomesticdiscipline.com. Good luck, sweetie.
We've only been married 3 years, living together for 4. How do other people separate those feelings of disappointment you have towards your spouse from the feelings of attraciveness you have towards them?How is it possible to see your spouse as household partner and intimate partner?
It's taken awhile but we are in a good place now. He's doing the laundry at this moment - not because I asked him to, but because he wants to.
We went through hell to get to this point as we were separated due to his infidelity. When we agreed to work things out, he came back with a ';little'; more compassion. But it took a little more refinement.
I broke down the finances on paper and divided by 3 (his son was living with us at the time). They didn't like this at all. But they sat on it for awhile. DH and I worked out something more agreeable about the finances.
Then came the help around the house issue. I simply told him that like the finances, maintaining the household was just too much for one person and that I needed his help. I had tears in my eves because althought I was calm, I was also frustrated. He seemed to ';get'; it about that time and has been helping ever since.How is it possible to see your spouse as household partner and intimate partner?
You shouldn't need to seperate them. You need to sit him down and explain the very points you've just explained in here. He's a guy, and guys love sex. so chances are he will change. Everything should be 50/50 in a relationship. If he's not pulling his weight, then let him know. Guys tend to slack off once they have you in the same house. basically they feel like they've won you now so they can do whatever they want. Let him know this isn't the case.
This is right up my alley. As I am the slacker. I am in recovery of being passive in the household duties and am turning over a new leaf. I think I am going to get alot more intimate contact w/ my wife over it. It's a husband's responsibility to make his wife happy and to put them first. While the wife shouldn't withhold, the husband should try to put his wife's needs ahead of his own. My wife said today that she is hopeful that our marriage is going to work (we are separated now). I can safely say that I get more positive feeback when I help out. As far as your question goes, it's pretty hard as sex starts ';in the kitchen';.
Maybe he ';slacks on his duties'; because he feels that no matter what he does, you'll be disappointed in him anyways('cause you'll be thinking of the times he ';slacked'; even when he is ';behaving'; like a good little boy). Come on, do you honestly think you are the perfect one in this marriage? Haven't you ever let your hubby down in some way? Get over it. I'm sure he picks up the ';slack'; in other areas when he ';slacks'; on something else.
Male or female... we all have different sexual desires, more often than not, they are not the same as our partner. Interesting enough... it takes about 4 years and the sex declines about 50% and about 20% every year after, more for women than men.
oh my goodness, start by getting over being mad at him when he ';slacks'; on his duties; marriage is not a 50/50 deal; sometimes it's 110 / 40; sometimes 40 / 60...sometimes 100 / 100 .....
Is it really worth it to get mad because he didn't take the trash our or do the dishes or whatever ';duties'; you have assigned to him.......
GREAT QUESTION. I will be watching for answers too, I have the same issue gping on and I though it was just me. I find it hard to be attracted to someone you've come to regard as lazy or as unappreciative..
Anytime you relate having intimacy issues tied to household chores there is something else wrong here. I think you are looking at having sex as a duty not the act of making love. You need to separate the two things. You need to have some frank discussions with him about helping with the responsibilities and set some ground rules and don't let things get out of hand for so long that it starts to build resentment. As far as the intimacy issues, get some romance going again. Talk to him about the way you two were while dating. Remind him of some of the things you miss that he did back then. If you can get the spark going again it can help him realize how helping you around the house can give you two more time to increase your passionate time together.
You probably could solve this problem between the two of you, tell him how you feel, and that you would like to make your marriage better. Let him know that when you get help you have so much more energy ';just for him';.
Honestly, you can't separate the feelings...
My rational is that you are drained...emotionally and physically...
I think that the emotional stresses or having to be physically worn out are what is keeping you from bonding with your husband to the point that you feel like being intimate...
I firmly believe in marriage counseling because men and women have got to learn how to communicate...
My husband and I went thought the same thing...what my husband had to learn about our relationship is that we have got to communicate...and he has had to learn to put himself into my world...and learn to meet the needs that I have and not the ones that he thinks I need...
So, I would suggest some type of mediation so that you all are able to communicate the needs that you have...
When your needs are met emotionally, it makes a world of difference...
Once again I think you need to voice your concerns and if he isn't receptive give him an ultimatum. Let him know how much his habits (laziness) bothers you and why.
If he still doesn't get it or seems to not care than you have a serious decision to make unless you want to be in an unhappy marriage.
Best of luck
Your life partner is both things; as are you.
Sex is wonderful. But life is...reality, too.
Deal with the fact that you must find a balance between the two.
We've been married for almost 37 years, my dear.
Don't focus so much on your ';expectations.';
We are all human. We have things in life we must do.
And then, there are the things we most love to do.
Find your balance.
Read the book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura. I think you can find some beneficial information in there.
Good luck!
You cant. It all runs together as what you think of him as a man. If he is taking care of his part, then u feel he is responsible. If he is slacking, u think of him as the opposite. Psychologically, women pick men who will be good providers. Its programmed into our brains. We look at physique (protection), we look at interaction with children (being a father) and we look at responsibility (being a provider).
Its when and area is being neglected, that it ruins the entire package.
I think its time for a heart to heart.
He needs to know how we think.
Maybe if he knows he is disappointing you by neglecting his responsibility, then he will attempt to make a change and get things packaged back up....so to speak..lol
Hope it all works out.....Good luck.
';When he slacks on his duties, I feel as though I don't want anything to do with him sexually.';
You got it twisted. Stop being a control freak.
I am glad I am my wife's lover. And not her ';honey do'; boy.
Tell him everything that is bothering you and that you would like to work on it. I've been where you are, it is very hard to be attracted to someone that your angry with or doesnt appreciate the things you do for him or your end of the bargain. Nothing wrong with it. Just use direct communication and let him know that you don't want to be stuck doing everything, and give him a sweet hint that once everything simmers down, you'll have more energy to put forth towards your sex life.
It is a give and take. I have learned with my husband not to expect to much. He does take care of all the finances. He does do some household chores. I dont push the issues. I slack once in awhile to show him what it would look like. then he gets off his butt and pitches in. He is also always there for the kids. sports and musicals and anything related to school. So you need to get past what he does not do. And talk to him if you really thinks he is spending to much. Or not spending enough time with the kids. Good Luck.
Well...see that's the problem with 50-50 marriages. You become too much alike. There is no difference in the man and the woman. The roles are the same. How BORING. Romance is in the difference in the masculine and the feminine. OPPOSITES attract. If I was you, I would try living in traditional marital roles. Read ';The Surrendered Wife'; or ';Fascinating Womanhood';. If you are a Christian, read, ';The Politically Incorrect Wife';, or if you really want to put a charge in it, check out the website Christian Domestic Discipline at www.christiandomesticdiscipline.com. Good luck, sweetie.
Personally know anyone who has met their spouse through E-Harmony?
Do you personally know anyone who has stayed together with someone after meeting on EHarmony?
I haven't heard of anyone.Personally know anyone who has met their spouse through E-Harmony?
My father in law and his wife met on E-Harmony. They have been married for about a year. They got married after dating for less than a year. That's really soon in my opinion. But I guess you're already desperate if you are using E-Harmony.Personally know anyone who has met their spouse through E-Harmony?
No, but my friend has been dating about 3 girls a week from there for the last month or so. They rejected me. :( Apparently the founder is an evangelist xian and if you don't put in your profile that you're religious or spiritual, you get rejected.
E-Harmony? I saw the commerical, blah! I hate all the dating websites
nope
I haven't heard of anyone.Personally know anyone who has met their spouse through E-Harmony?
My father in law and his wife met on E-Harmony. They have been married for about a year. They got married after dating for less than a year. That's really soon in my opinion. But I guess you're already desperate if you are using E-Harmony.Personally know anyone who has met their spouse through E-Harmony?
No, but my friend has been dating about 3 girls a week from there for the last month or so. They rejected me. :( Apparently the founder is an evangelist xian and if you don't put in your profile that you're religious or spiritual, you get rejected.
E-Harmony? I saw the commerical, blah! I hate all the dating websites
nope
If you died would you haunt your spouse?
I would...I'd remind him to do things like ';it's time to do the dishes'; or ';Don't forget to take out the trash'; (in a spooky voice)...I guess it wouldn't be that much different from real life.If you died would you haunt your spouse?
Yes, I would keep changing the channel on the tv, to watch what I like.If you died would you haunt your spouse?
no i wouldnt haunt him i lovee him so much i mean
i would like him to remember me but
also to move on and have another spouse you know
he's young and i want him to be happy even
though it may not be with me :]
You better believe it 24-7 . I would visit him every night he would never get any sleep. And he would wish every day he had went first!
This is hilarious....heck ya I would, I'd rattle chains and keep him up all night as payback for all his snoring. And God forbid he remarry..wahahaha!
nope, lol!
That would be so annoying. I'd get on with my afterlife, date other ghosts, go out on the undertown.
not in a scary way but I guess I'd do little things to let him know I was still around.
No I'd try and help her, like in Ghost.
if i died i would haunt my creditors
or the bully in my high school
i'd poltergeist his b%tt.
no, i won't haunt him, but i will let him see me...
Not at all,i love him.
no it would hurt to see them fall in love with someone else x
no, I wouldn't want him to think he was losing his mind or something.
Yes, I would keep changing the channel on the tv, to watch what I like.If you died would you haunt your spouse?
no i wouldnt haunt him i lovee him so much i mean
i would like him to remember me but
also to move on and have another spouse you know
he's young and i want him to be happy even
though it may not be with me :]
You better believe it 24-7 . I would visit him every night he would never get any sleep. And he would wish every day he had went first!
This is hilarious....heck ya I would, I'd rattle chains and keep him up all night as payback for all his snoring. And God forbid he remarry..wahahaha!
nope, lol!
That would be so annoying. I'd get on with my afterlife, date other ghosts, go out on the undertown.
not in a scary way but I guess I'd do little things to let him know I was still around.
No I'd try and help her, like in Ghost.
if i died i would haunt my creditors
or the bully in my high school
i'd poltergeist his b%tt.
no, i won't haunt him, but i will let him see me...
Not at all,i love him.
no it would hurt to see them fall in love with someone else x
no, I wouldn't want him to think he was losing his mind or something.
When a married couple splits can the spouse come in and take what they want from the house before divorced?
Some friends of mine have been married only a few months.. they separated.. the one who moved out came in and took what they wanted that was given to them together from bridal showers, friends, etc. Came in while the spouse was at work and took several things that was theirs together. I need to know if this is legal or not and what can be done about it if it is not legal.When a married couple splits can the spouse come in and take what they want from the house before divorced?
Not really but they do it anyways. If you are getting a divorce the courts can make you divide up the property 50/50. Most people take things because they want to be vindictive.When a married couple splits can the spouse come in and take what they want from the house before divorced?
The answer will vary based on the state in which they reside. Have your friend get an attorney NOW! Also, he may be able to reclaim some of the property if he can prove it came from his relative...basically she keeps what came from her family/friends, he keeps what came from his family/friends.
They are still married and so they are entitled to what ever is in the house. If your friend had any brains they would have changed the locks so they don't come home to little surprises like this.
Don't get in to that. I bet u they will get together. I am sure that they might be some legal thing that says this is not right. But it sounds more like a selfish thing..doesn't?
I suggest your friend change the locks and the police (if he or she calls them) will escort him or her in to take things that DO belong to him... List the things they have taken... when it does go to court...
I really don't think there is anything that can be done about it. If they live there they can take what the want out.
Nope, not legal. But it would surely be a huge, expensive fight...to get those things back.
its he said, she said, ****, stay out of itrimmel makeup counter
Not really but they do it anyways. If you are getting a divorce the courts can make you divide up the property 50/50. Most people take things because they want to be vindictive.When a married couple splits can the spouse come in and take what they want from the house before divorced?
The answer will vary based on the state in which they reside. Have your friend get an attorney NOW! Also, he may be able to reclaim some of the property if he can prove it came from his relative...basically she keeps what came from her family/friends, he keeps what came from his family/friends.
They are still married and so they are entitled to what ever is in the house. If your friend had any brains they would have changed the locks so they don't come home to little surprises like this.
Don't get in to that. I bet u they will get together. I am sure that they might be some legal thing that says this is not right. But it sounds more like a selfish thing..doesn't?
I suggest your friend change the locks and the police (if he or she calls them) will escort him or her in to take things that DO belong to him... List the things they have taken... when it does go to court...
I really don't think there is anything that can be done about it. If they live there they can take what the want out.
Nope, not legal. But it would surely be a huge, expensive fight...to get those things back.
its he said, she said, ****, stay out of it
Is there any way to permanently remove sexual desire or the need for a spouse in human males?
You should use cialis, it is the best about it you can get information from here http://doctors36.notlong.com/3AAMmpBIs there any way to permanently remove sexual desire or the need for a spouse in human males?
Take 3 tea spoon Coriander (seeds) and grind it well. Now mix it in a glass of water. Drink and you will lose sexual desire for at least one month. You will get back your sexual desire after one month.
For permanent removal, get injection of potassium.
Take 3 tea spoon Coriander (seeds) and grind it well. Now mix it in a glass of water. Drink and you will lose sexual desire for at least one month. You will get back your sexual desire after one month.
For permanent removal, get injection of potassium.
For credit card debt, is the spouse responsible for it, too?
I have a charged off credit card account under my name only.
I wonder the credit card company will be able to go after my wife's asset to collect the debt I owe.For credit card debt, is the spouse responsible for it, too?
With much difficulty. Nothing automatic about it. And they'd still have to win a legal judgment in court to do so.
Credit card companies make lots of money. The issue is not whether they're making money, but HOW much money they're making THIS year. When the credit card industry makes $9 Billion just in late fees ALONE in a single year, you can imagine how much they're making in over-limit fees, and interest that approaches 25%. Don't feel sorry for the poor credit card companies that they only made a bajillion bucks this quarter.
So when they charge off a debt, they still get some money back for it. First, in reduced taxes for the loss, and then again when a private debt recovery company buys the debt from them. Now, it's THOSE companies you have to worry about. First, they bought the debt for pennies on the dollar, next they tack on all sorts of 'fees', penalties, and interest (that was never agreed to, which makes it invalid), and THEN they sue you in court, hoping that you won't show up. If you don't, they get the entire judgment by default. That makes a $300 credit card debt worth $3,000 or more for them (for which they paid $30 and some court filing fees).
After that, they can search out whatever holdings you have and grab them to satisfy the judgment, even if jointly held by a spouse. It's up to YOU to take them back to court to contest their right to do so. (Mostly you'll win, but you still have to challenge it. Otherwise, they keep it.)
By the way, is everyone familiar with Universal Default? That means your credit card company can review your credit record whenever they like. Even if you've been paying on time, never late, always diligent, if they see where you've had a credit problem with any other company, they can lower your credit limit (placing you in a montly over-limit fee category until your balance falls below the new limit), higher interest rates, and even cancellation of your card, which lowers your credit score, leading to more universal default decisions by other credit card companies.
Now, how would you like to be buying a car, making your payments every month, never late, keeping it insured, doing everything you need to do, and the finance company comes along and takes it away because you had a dispute with some other company that isn't even related? And this in turn causes your mortgage company to foreclose on your home, even with all the thousands of dollars you've paid into it?
Don't pity the poor credit card companies because their profits are down this year. And they're only making tens of billions of dollars in profit rather than hundreds of billions.For credit card debt, is the spouse responsible for it, too?
Actually, the answer is a qualified yes, depending on what state you are in. Many states allow a judgment to be placed on assets considered joint-tenants in common for married couples. An example would be a joint bank account.
Anything solely in her name will generally be safe.
Note that if they chose to charge it off, they have already claimed it as a loss and therefore are unlikely to pursue assets.
No! Your spouse is not responsible unless she signed for the card.
I wonder the credit card company will be able to go after my wife's asset to collect the debt I owe.For credit card debt, is the spouse responsible for it, too?
With much difficulty. Nothing automatic about it. And they'd still have to win a legal judgment in court to do so.
Credit card companies make lots of money. The issue is not whether they're making money, but HOW much money they're making THIS year. When the credit card industry makes $9 Billion just in late fees ALONE in a single year, you can imagine how much they're making in over-limit fees, and interest that approaches 25%. Don't feel sorry for the poor credit card companies that they only made a bajillion bucks this quarter.
So when they charge off a debt, they still get some money back for it. First, in reduced taxes for the loss, and then again when a private debt recovery company buys the debt from them. Now, it's THOSE companies you have to worry about. First, they bought the debt for pennies on the dollar, next they tack on all sorts of 'fees', penalties, and interest (that was never agreed to, which makes it invalid), and THEN they sue you in court, hoping that you won't show up. If you don't, they get the entire judgment by default. That makes a $300 credit card debt worth $3,000 or more for them (for which they paid $30 and some court filing fees).
After that, they can search out whatever holdings you have and grab them to satisfy the judgment, even if jointly held by a spouse. It's up to YOU to take them back to court to contest their right to do so. (Mostly you'll win, but you still have to challenge it. Otherwise, they keep it.)
By the way, is everyone familiar with Universal Default? That means your credit card company can review your credit record whenever they like. Even if you've been paying on time, never late, always diligent, if they see where you've had a credit problem with any other company, they can lower your credit limit (placing you in a montly over-limit fee category until your balance falls below the new limit), higher interest rates, and even cancellation of your card, which lowers your credit score, leading to more universal default decisions by other credit card companies.
Now, how would you like to be buying a car, making your payments every month, never late, keeping it insured, doing everything you need to do, and the finance company comes along and takes it away because you had a dispute with some other company that isn't even related? And this in turn causes your mortgage company to foreclose on your home, even with all the thousands of dollars you've paid into it?
Don't pity the poor credit card companies because their profits are down this year. And they're only making tens of billions of dollars in profit rather than hundreds of billions.For credit card debt, is the spouse responsible for it, too?
Actually, the answer is a qualified yes, depending on what state you are in. Many states allow a judgment to be placed on assets considered joint-tenants in common for married couples. An example would be a joint bank account.
Anything solely in her name will generally be safe.
Note that if they chose to charge it off, they have already claimed it as a loss and therefore are unlikely to pursue assets.
No! Your spouse is not responsible unless she signed for the card.
Spouse just got reclassified as TDRL, he is not entitled to Deers while TDRL or to edu. benefits?
I am still trying to figure the military stuff out, thanks for helping me and my TBI husband.Spouse just got reclassified as TDRL, he is not entitled to Deers while TDRL or to edu. benefits?
Yes he is entitled!! He needs to go to the VFW and let them handle his case. They know the rules and will ensure he get what he deserves.
Yes he is entitled!! He needs to go to the VFW and let them handle his case. They know the rules and will ensure he get what he deserves.
What nickname do you give your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend?
';future ex wife';
she loves that one!
What nickname do you give your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend?
i call my boyfriend these on a regular basis:Papi, Amante(means ';lover';),my boo and some other spanish names lol What nickname do you give your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend?
well for me hmm i called it SWEET HEART as a sign of sweet and two of hearts and HONEY is the sign of SWEETIEST%26lt;lol%26gt;ok good luck
My Marine call me ';bay'; (bei)and sometimes ';boo or Lil bella'; lil bella means lil beauty... I call him ';baby carrot'; i wont tell you why... lol
Luvee, Darling, Honey, and Sunshine
Either a shortening of their given name or none. Pet names are too cliche for me.
hunny, baby, babe, hun, whatever comes out at that point in time
babes, baby boo, bay, noopy [pronounced: nu-pee] (love that one)
Papi, baby boy, boo boo, mi amor, my love, my pookie lips.
Lol
I would give my boyfriend the nickname Hunny or Hun
Liar, as of tonight.
I call my boyfriend Ryan Ry-Ry and he calls me Boo.
fuzzy wuzzy poopie bear.
I call my boyfriend hunny bunny hehe :)
i sometimes call my bf tiger. hehe.
baby janoo, jan g aur i would add g at the end of his name.
I call my man beau which is another word for boyfriend
silly billy
hot stuff
cutie pie
mah behbeh
I call her Monkey fart. She calls me Fraggle Poo
he is bug and i am cherry :)
hes my alex bear:]
she loves that one!
What nickname do you give your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend?
i call my boyfriend these on a regular basis:Papi, Amante(means ';lover';),my boo and some other spanish names lol What nickname do you give your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend?
well for me hmm i called it SWEET HEART as a sign of sweet and two of hearts and HONEY is the sign of SWEETIEST%26lt;lol%26gt;ok good luck
My Marine call me ';bay'; (bei)and sometimes ';boo or Lil bella'; lil bella means lil beauty... I call him ';baby carrot'; i wont tell you why... lol
Luvee, Darling, Honey, and Sunshine
Either a shortening of their given name or none. Pet names are too cliche for me.
hunny, baby, babe, hun, whatever comes out at that point in time
babes, baby boo, bay, noopy [pronounced: nu-pee] (love that one)
Papi, baby boy, boo boo, mi amor, my love, my pookie lips.
Lol
I would give my boyfriend the nickname Hunny or Hun
Liar, as of tonight.
I call my boyfriend Ryan Ry-Ry and he calls me Boo.
fuzzy wuzzy poopie bear.
I call my boyfriend hunny bunny hehe :)
i sometimes call my bf tiger. hehe.
baby janoo, jan g aur i would add g at the end of his name.
I call my man beau which is another word for boyfriend
silly billy
hot stuff
cutie pie
mah behbeh
I call her Monkey fart. She calls me Fraggle Poo
he is bug and i am cherry :)
hes my alex bear:]
How do you know if your spouse (boyfriend or girlfriend)is loyal to you?
I know because there's no doubt in my mind he's loyal. If there is doubt, there is reason for that doubt.
Since you posted this question, does that mean you have doubt that your spouse is loyal? if so, there's probably good reason. humans have good instincts :)How do you know if your spouse (boyfriend or girlfriend)is loyal to you?
You never really know for sure, but if you talk to the individual and they tell you they are then it's on you to trust them. Trust is key. Although, you shouldn't constantly be thinkng about whether or not they're loyal, but don't let it stray to far from a possibility. If anything bad happens, it happens. Not much you can do but move on.How do you know if your spouse (boyfriend or girlfriend)is loyal to you?
look.am talking abt husband...he should be honest with u...he should give u time..on weekends...and he should have dinner with u..he should talk with u after office hr..like to spend with u....if he is talking over phone then he should speak infront of u..he shouldn't avoid u...not in public place...he should take u to the movie, mall, party...he should accept who u r...
when i go out with my hubby i usually ask him wht should i wear,which jjeweleryshould i wear,which lipstick,eyeshadow should i use...he choose it for me.....if he is in office if he is busy..he should call u after meeting..atleast once he should call u for lunch...he sshouldtake u with walk....
he should bring u flowers/gift/chocolate...
if they r loyal to u..then they will share every talks of their life with u...as i do...
Since you posted this question, does that mean you have doubt that your spouse is loyal? if so, there's probably good reason. humans have good instincts :)How do you know if your spouse (boyfriend or girlfriend)is loyal to you?
You never really know for sure, but if you talk to the individual and they tell you they are then it's on you to trust them. Trust is key. Although, you shouldn't constantly be thinkng about whether or not they're loyal, but don't let it stray to far from a possibility. If anything bad happens, it happens. Not much you can do but move on.How do you know if your spouse (boyfriend or girlfriend)is loyal to you?
look.am talking abt husband...he should be honest with u...he should give u time..on weekends...and he should have dinner with u..he should talk with u after office hr..like to spend with u....if he is talking over phone then he should speak infront of u..he shouldn't avoid u...not in public place...he should take u to the movie, mall, party...he should accept who u r...
when i go out with my hubby i usually ask him wht should i wear,which jjeweleryshould i wear,which lipstick,eyeshadow should i use...he choose it for me.....if he is in office if he is busy..he should call u after meeting..atleast once he should call u for lunch...he sshouldtake u with walk....
he should bring u flowers/gift/chocolate...
if they r loyal to u..then they will share every talks of their life with u...as i do...
Divorce in Florida from an Alien Spouse?
I started the divorce process and am about to file a default against my husband, from Hungary, who isn't responding to anything. He has just been ignoring the documents sent to him. He never obtained his green card because we separated shortly after the marriage do to his infidelity. How long does it typically take for the process to be finalized when the other spouse isn't compliant and does him not being legal here have anything to do with the time it takes?Divorce in Florida from an Alien Spouse?
His immigration status is irrelevant if he does not answer the complaint. If he were fully participating it might cause delays because of his need to get travel documents to come to the U.S. for court. The amount of time it will take depends on how busy your courts are but a default divorce shouldn't take more than two or three months.Divorce in Florida from an Alien Spouse?
I think you could have him deported, however that might effect your divorce proceedings. Talk to a attorney asap.eye look makeup counter
His immigration status is irrelevant if he does not answer the complaint. If he were fully participating it might cause delays because of his need to get travel documents to come to the U.S. for court. The amount of time it will take depends on how busy your courts are but a default divorce shouldn't take more than two or three months.Divorce in Florida from an Alien Spouse?
I think you could have him deported, however that might effect your divorce proceedings. Talk to a attorney asap.
PCSing to RAF lakenheath as a spouse do i qualify for NHS Dental?
I have United concordia, but i want to get braces when i get to England, I heard its limited to get braces on base as a dependant so i couldnt get them put on here b4 i left because we already had orders...i wanted to know what i had to do to qualify for NHS.PCSing to RAF lakenheath as a spouse do i qualify for NHS Dental?
Most Dentists in the UK are private the same as in the US, and only certain UK dentists take NHS Patients. As for American Service Personnel, they only qualify for free emergency treatments unless the US Military is prepared to foot the bill.
http://www.lakenheath.af.mil/library/fac鈥?/a>
As for NHS Dental Treatment it is only free to under 18's, students, those receiving welfare and the low paid.
http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1786.aspx?Ca鈥?/a>
NHS Treatment Costs and Private Treatment Costs -
http://www.whatprice.co.uk/dentist/nhs-p鈥?/a>PCSing to RAF lakenheath as a spouse do i qualify for NHS Dental?
For braces you have to be 23 or younger to qualify even if you are overseas. It will be a maximum of $1500 contributed towards it, no more, the rest is out of pocket.
At the Clinic it will depend on what they can do, usually it is basic work like cleanings, xrays, fillings, etc... Some work might need to go out into town. You should keep the United Concordia coverage even overseas so that if anything needs to be done it will be covered.
As a spouse already over here..NHS is for people born here so no not unless you were born here my daughter was so she has an NHS number! All I can tell you is get in the dental clinic ASAP and pray they help you out! They have done great with me I needed a lower partial and I go pick it up in a week was suppose to be last week but I had personal stuff pop up. Good luck I'm so happy to be leaving here it isn't even funny!
Most Dentists in the UK are private the same as in the US, and only certain UK dentists take NHS Patients. As for American Service Personnel, they only qualify for free emergency treatments unless the US Military is prepared to foot the bill.
http://www.lakenheath.af.mil/library/fac鈥?/a>
As for NHS Dental Treatment it is only free to under 18's, students, those receiving welfare and the low paid.
http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1786.aspx?Ca鈥?/a>
NHS Treatment Costs and Private Treatment Costs -
http://www.whatprice.co.uk/dentist/nhs-p鈥?/a>PCSing to RAF lakenheath as a spouse do i qualify for NHS Dental?
For braces you have to be 23 or younger to qualify even if you are overseas. It will be a maximum of $1500 contributed towards it, no more, the rest is out of pocket.
At the Clinic it will depend on what they can do, usually it is basic work like cleanings, xrays, fillings, etc... Some work might need to go out into town. You should keep the United Concordia coverage even overseas so that if anything needs to be done it will be covered.
As a spouse already over here..NHS is for people born here so no not unless you were born here my daughter was so she has an NHS number! All I can tell you is get in the dental clinic ASAP and pray they help you out! They have done great with me I needed a lower partial and I go pick it up in a week was suppose to be last week but I had personal stuff pop up. Good luck I'm so happy to be leaving here it isn't even funny!
If your separated for 8yrs an don't know how to contact your spouse. How would you be able to get a divorce.?
Easily. You have to put in an advertisement in the last known area he was living. But in today's computer world, the attorney (and even you) should be able to find him easily enough. www.peoplefinder.com. all you have to know his is full name and birth date. You can find anyone for like 7 bucks.
But if you think he's make it difficult, you can explain that to your attorney and just file an absentee and do the newspaper thing for so many weeks. Each county has it's own rules, about how big the font is, how long it is ran and the types of things it must say. If he doesn't come forward in the amount of time given, then the divorce can proceed and finish.If your separated for 8yrs an don't know how to contact your spouse. How would you be able to get a divorce.?
You would file a missing spouse divorce. This involves placing a notice of publication in your local newspaper. They will then be given a certain amount of time to respond, if they don't then the divorce will be granted be default. You'll need to wait any required waiting periods if ordered by your state but after that, you will be legally divorced.If your separated for 8yrs an don't know how to contact your spouse. How would you be able to get a divorce.?
go to your local courthouse library, and ask the librarian to help you find out how to file for your own divorce.
in virginia, my sister filed her own divorce, and paid only the court. she did not pay for an attorney, nor did she need one appointed to her.
you will first have to go to the courthouse to petition the court for a divorce decree (apply for the divorce).
you will also have to put an ad in the local newspaper, to announce your divorce from him, and run it for 30 days. you will need a witness to attest in court that you and he have not lived together in the same dwelling unit for one year or more.
there are a series of questions (in format) that you will find at the courthouse library, that you will need to ask the witness in front of the judge to answer. these questions are very brief and most require a yes or no response. (i was the witness).
not sure about the procedures where you live, so just go to the courthouse and check it out.
good luck.
I went through the same thing after being separated for years with no contact or clue where the deadbeat was. I live in Ohio so the laws where you are may be different, but I just got an attorney and she filed all the paperwork for me, I had to put an ad in my local paper and a few national publications to give the loser some sort of notice of my intention to divorce him for 30 days and after that if the person doesn't contact your attorney then you are considered to be abandoned and granted a divorce (after going before the judge of course.)
If you have no clue where that person is.. you will need a lawyer..or file ';abandonment';..there are certain things you need to do before the divorce is granted but it can be even if he or she..doesn't response.
It is better way to get relief from the court. Any how you should get the information about your spouse from native place. Contact a good lawyer.
speak to a lawyer, after 7 years I believe in most places you can file in your spouses absence.
Isnt it automatic divorce after 7years. I saw 'the bold and the beautiful' !
Go to a solicitor and find out - the law will vary from country to country.
But if you think he's make it difficult, you can explain that to your attorney and just file an absentee and do the newspaper thing for so many weeks. Each county has it's own rules, about how big the font is, how long it is ran and the types of things it must say. If he doesn't come forward in the amount of time given, then the divorce can proceed and finish.If your separated for 8yrs an don't know how to contact your spouse. How would you be able to get a divorce.?
You would file a missing spouse divorce. This involves placing a notice of publication in your local newspaper. They will then be given a certain amount of time to respond, if they don't then the divorce will be granted be default. You'll need to wait any required waiting periods if ordered by your state but after that, you will be legally divorced.If your separated for 8yrs an don't know how to contact your spouse. How would you be able to get a divorce.?
go to your local courthouse library, and ask the librarian to help you find out how to file for your own divorce.
in virginia, my sister filed her own divorce, and paid only the court. she did not pay for an attorney, nor did she need one appointed to her.
you will first have to go to the courthouse to petition the court for a divorce decree (apply for the divorce).
you will also have to put an ad in the local newspaper, to announce your divorce from him, and run it for 30 days. you will need a witness to attest in court that you and he have not lived together in the same dwelling unit for one year or more.
there are a series of questions (in format) that you will find at the courthouse library, that you will need to ask the witness in front of the judge to answer. these questions are very brief and most require a yes or no response. (i was the witness).
not sure about the procedures where you live, so just go to the courthouse and check it out.
good luck.
I went through the same thing after being separated for years with no contact or clue where the deadbeat was. I live in Ohio so the laws where you are may be different, but I just got an attorney and she filed all the paperwork for me, I had to put an ad in my local paper and a few national publications to give the loser some sort of notice of my intention to divorce him for 30 days and after that if the person doesn't contact your attorney then you are considered to be abandoned and granted a divorce (after going before the judge of course.)
If you have no clue where that person is.. you will need a lawyer..or file ';abandonment';..there are certain things you need to do before the divorce is granted but it can be even if he or she..doesn't response.
It is better way to get relief from the court. Any how you should get the information about your spouse from native place. Contact a good lawyer.
speak to a lawyer, after 7 years I believe in most places you can file in your spouses absence.
Isnt it automatic divorce after 7years. I saw 'the bold and the beautiful' !
Go to a solicitor and find out - the law will vary from country to country.
Is it normal for husbands and wives to have separation anxiety when their spouse is gone on a trip or is away?
Of course, especially if you are not used to being away from each other. Since my husband started traveling a lot for work, I have gotten really good about it. I used to be terrible when he was gone (couldn't even sleep). Now, it's not such a big deal (I sleep just fine). LOL.
How often are you & your spouse intimate ?
We have 4 children and I was wondering how often you and your spouse are intimate if you also have children. Just wanting to see what the ';norm'; is......thanks!How often are you %26amp; your spouse intimate ?
I think it varies from relationship to relationship. Try not to beat yourself up if other married couples are intimate more often. I mean, having kids makes a big difference. But, you can have a couple with four kids who can do it often, but then another couple with four kids might not get the chance. Children are different and their needs vary. I hear people say everyday, or 4 times a week, but is that the constant? This week me and my husband had sex three consecutive days in a row. Yay us! We did good! But, i promise theyre has been times, where we've gone about two weeks! I think what matter more, is not how much you do it, but how often you would like to! You should always try to make time for each other, but it seems like the more we TRY to make time, the more it backfires. Its like the kids sense mommy and daddy are going to do something fun that night, so they nip it in the bud real quick! lol!
oh btw, we have three children, 2, 5, and 8. and our two yrs. old is going to be the death of me, i swear!
good luck!How often are you %26amp; your spouse intimate ?
Well, since I am divorce, I have to answer looking back at my past marriages.
Intimacy is more than just having sex. I find that some of my most intimate moments with my wives really had nothing to do with intercourse. Time alone on a mountainside can be very intimate and just as satisfying as intercourse.
In my first marriage, we really had a hard time being intimate (sexually or otherwise). Oh, we did have our times鈥?after all, we did have three children. But moments of intimacy were rare鈥?maybe once a month and even less close to the end.
In my second marriage, many times a week (both sexually and otherwise). I really loved to brush her hair or give her a massage. But the amount AND quality of our intimacy really depended on how busy we both were (both worked at least part-time) and the stress we were under. Obviously, as our problems increased, our times for intimacy decreased. Having said that, the very night before she walked out, I gave her a full body massage and we had wonderful sex.
We have been married for 12 years and have 2 kids 8 %26amp; 10. I am 40 and she is 47.
Year 1: 1-2 times a week
Years 2-4: every day until pregnancy, then nothing after that
Years 5-12: 6-10 times a year, when i begged and initiated
The past 12 months - none
I tried to talk to my wife several times. It went nowhere. She refuses to ever initiate, and when I used to initiate, she would say no most of the time. I got so beaten down that I finally stopped trying and started fooling around on business trips. It's her fault.
We are finally going to counseling, and i think the counselor even believes my wife is retarded.
edit - as for the person way above who said ';when the kids go away to college, all you have to throw out is the dog'; do you think your husband is happy about waiting 18+ years for you to relax? that is WAY TOO FREAKIN LONG. wake up.
There are some studies that indicate that an ';average couple'; does it 6-8 times a month. I would assume this decreases over time.
Regarding myself...average never sounded so spectacular! If I get it more than once in each four week period (cycle time), then it's like friggin christmas.
Nevertheless, I have my goals of achieving one third of average.....sigh
BTW, 4 kids
Depends on what is going on. This is a 'good' week and we have had sex about 7x on 5 different days. A bad week is zero or once for only a minute. He is hot and cold, depending on his stress level. Stress does not affect my sex drive at all. We have one child and I am 8.5 months pregnant.
Intimate meaning having sex? Every 2-3 months. Intimate meaning sharing quality time together - every day, all the time. Our relationship is very intimate.
P.S. We don't have kids.
I have 2 children.... and things come and go sometimes everyday sometimes 1 or more times a week. But my husband seems to think he is a lucky man cause he gets it much more than his co-workers! I think every relationship has different needs.
Not often enough for me. We have sex probably once a week maybe twice if I'm lucky. And I have a 4 year old son. No matter how much I tell him I want more it never changes so I have just learned to accept it.
I like to shoot for 3 to 4 times a week, but there always seems to be something that gets in the way. As you will find out as life goes on.
At least every day sometimes 2-3 times a day but we also are newlyweds. We have a had a few days when we went without for a day but we always made up for it :)
the kids really do put a damper on things, but one day they will all go away to college and the only one you have to throw out of the room is the dog. :)
I'm 39 Years old. mother to four kids ages 21, 17, 13, and 7. I have been married for 18 years my husband and I have sex two to three times per week.
6 kids
Daily
*edit*
Who the hell would thumbs down a mother of 6 who f*cks her husband?? What is WRONG with you people?? Jeeeezzz
1-2 times a week. Sad, very sad. Frustrating, very frustrating.
i have 3 children and me and my significant other are very intimate but if ur spouse aint takein care of bussines then do somethin to spice up the night or something
GO MUSTAFAH!
Every day. We have sex in the hall ways. I walk past her and she and I say f' you to each other. Intimate!
We have a six year old, and we have sex three or so times a week.
We're intimate everyday! We don't always have SEX, but that is just a part of our intimacy.
every other day atleast. Its called putting the kids to bed early! lol
Thats really the only time we get together to talk and to do dirty things.
maybe once in the last year and a half.
everyday
Every single day. Ok, at LEAST 5 times a week, but the last few weeks it's been everyday. We have a 3 year old.
couple times a week with my spouse...waaaaay more than that with my girlfriend
once a year no joke
I think it varies from relationship to relationship. Try not to beat yourself up if other married couples are intimate more often. I mean, having kids makes a big difference. But, you can have a couple with four kids who can do it often, but then another couple with four kids might not get the chance. Children are different and their needs vary. I hear people say everyday, or 4 times a week, but is that the constant? This week me and my husband had sex three consecutive days in a row. Yay us! We did good! But, i promise theyre has been times, where we've gone about two weeks! I think what matter more, is not how much you do it, but how often you would like to! You should always try to make time for each other, but it seems like the more we TRY to make time, the more it backfires. Its like the kids sense mommy and daddy are going to do something fun that night, so they nip it in the bud real quick! lol!
oh btw, we have three children, 2, 5, and 8. and our two yrs. old is going to be the death of me, i swear!
good luck!How often are you %26amp; your spouse intimate ?
Well, since I am divorce, I have to answer looking back at my past marriages.
Intimacy is more than just having sex. I find that some of my most intimate moments with my wives really had nothing to do with intercourse. Time alone on a mountainside can be very intimate and just as satisfying as intercourse.
In my first marriage, we really had a hard time being intimate (sexually or otherwise). Oh, we did have our times鈥?after all, we did have three children. But moments of intimacy were rare鈥?maybe once a month and even less close to the end.
In my second marriage, many times a week (both sexually and otherwise). I really loved to brush her hair or give her a massage. But the amount AND quality of our intimacy really depended on how busy we both were (both worked at least part-time) and the stress we were under. Obviously, as our problems increased, our times for intimacy decreased. Having said that, the very night before she walked out, I gave her a full body massage and we had wonderful sex.
We have been married for 12 years and have 2 kids 8 %26amp; 10. I am 40 and she is 47.
Year 1: 1-2 times a week
Years 2-4: every day until pregnancy, then nothing after that
Years 5-12: 6-10 times a year, when i begged and initiated
The past 12 months - none
I tried to talk to my wife several times. It went nowhere. She refuses to ever initiate, and when I used to initiate, she would say no most of the time. I got so beaten down that I finally stopped trying and started fooling around on business trips. It's her fault.
We are finally going to counseling, and i think the counselor even believes my wife is retarded.
edit - as for the person way above who said ';when the kids go away to college, all you have to throw out is the dog'; do you think your husband is happy about waiting 18+ years for you to relax? that is WAY TOO FREAKIN LONG. wake up.
There are some studies that indicate that an ';average couple'; does it 6-8 times a month. I would assume this decreases over time.
Regarding myself...average never sounded so spectacular! If I get it more than once in each four week period (cycle time), then it's like friggin christmas.
Nevertheless, I have my goals of achieving one third of average.....sigh
BTW, 4 kids
Depends on what is going on. This is a 'good' week and we have had sex about 7x on 5 different days. A bad week is zero or once for only a minute. He is hot and cold, depending on his stress level. Stress does not affect my sex drive at all. We have one child and I am 8.5 months pregnant.
Intimate meaning having sex? Every 2-3 months. Intimate meaning sharing quality time together - every day, all the time. Our relationship is very intimate.
P.S. We don't have kids.
I have 2 children.... and things come and go sometimes everyday sometimes 1 or more times a week. But my husband seems to think he is a lucky man cause he gets it much more than his co-workers! I think every relationship has different needs.
Not often enough for me. We have sex probably once a week maybe twice if I'm lucky. And I have a 4 year old son. No matter how much I tell him I want more it never changes so I have just learned to accept it.
I like to shoot for 3 to 4 times a week, but there always seems to be something that gets in the way. As you will find out as life goes on.
At least every day sometimes 2-3 times a day but we also are newlyweds. We have a had a few days when we went without for a day but we always made up for it :)
the kids really do put a damper on things, but one day they will all go away to college and the only one you have to throw out of the room is the dog. :)
I'm 39 Years old. mother to four kids ages 21, 17, 13, and 7. I have been married for 18 years my husband and I have sex two to three times per week.
6 kids
Daily
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Who the hell would thumbs down a mother of 6 who f*cks her husband?? What is WRONG with you people?? Jeeeezzz
1-2 times a week. Sad, very sad. Frustrating, very frustrating.
i have 3 children and me and my significant other are very intimate but if ur spouse aint takein care of bussines then do somethin to spice up the night or something
GO MUSTAFAH!
Every day. We have sex in the hall ways. I walk past her and she and I say f' you to each other. Intimate!
We have a six year old, and we have sex three or so times a week.
We're intimate everyday! We don't always have SEX, but that is just a part of our intimacy.
every other day atleast. Its called putting the kids to bed early! lol
Thats really the only time we get together to talk and to do dirty things.
maybe once in the last year and a half.
everyday
Every single day. Ok, at LEAST 5 times a week, but the last few weeks it's been everyday. We have a 3 year old.
couple times a week with my spouse...waaaaay more than that with my girlfriend
once a year no joke
Would it upset you if your husband/wife kept a picture of their late spouse?
Now I know some of you will say ';no! of course not!'; but seriously, if your husband/wife had a picture of another person other than you, would you ask them to take it down or put it away?
I ask because my brother's girlfriend was angry at him because he had a picture of his late wife. She died last year from cirrhosis of the liver. come on, isn't that a bit much? does that sound selfish to you?
what do you think?Would it upset you if your husband/wife kept a picture of their late spouse?
If anything, I would think it would reassure the girlfriend that your brother is serious about the '; 'til death do us part'; issue.Would it upset you if your husband/wife kept a picture of their late spouse?
Cirrhosis of the liver? She was an alcoholic? You would think he wouldn't want to be reminded of all the years he had to put up with her drinking.
As long as a man keeps a picture of his late wife hanging on the wall, he's not ready to start a relationship with someone new.
He needs to make up his mind. Does he want to stay in the past with his alcoholic wife or start a new life with someone else? Maybe it's time to put the picture away and replace it with a picture of himself and his girlfriend. I sure hope he isn't still wearing his wedding ring. If he is, then he needs to give himself more time to get over the loss of his wife, before he starts dating. No woman wants to compete with a ghost.
Let's face it, his wife just died last year and he's already dating? It doesn't sound to me like he's still mourning over the death of his wife. So what's up with keeping the picture of his wife out in the open for his girlfriend to have to look at every time she comes to his house?
I think that a large part of our personalities and character as adults have been shaped by our experiences. Your deceased sister-in-law has helped to create the man that is girlfriend now loves. If for nothing then for that reason only; the deceased wife and past relationship deserves respect. She was an integral part of his life and he should be allowed to memorialize her in any way he sees fit, just as long as he is not disrespecting the present girlfriend. If the girlfriend cannot understand then she is very selfish and immature. She should never have the priviledge of becomming his second wife. If your brother is in fact still moping over his late wife then it might be too soon to move on.
Not only would that be cruel to demand this of the bereaved, but it tells him you are insecure. Those who get left behind after a spouse, girlfriend, fiancee dies, have every right to hang on to photos, memories of the dead. That is part of their past, something that meant a lot to them. Asking them to let go of this just out of jealousy is lousy. Those who get jealous of the dead need to ask why they would let someone that is already gone, come between them. They cannot hurt you, unless you let them. Respect the dead and feelings of those whom get left behind. Walk in their shoes and you won't feel this way.
If it were an ex-wife, I would say yes. She has the right to be upset. However, that is not the case. It is a picture of his late wife. He has every right to keep her picture up. The death of a spouse is one of the hardest things to go through. It could take him years to fully get over her death, if ever. Has this girlfriend ever been married? If she has she would understand that bond. She should be there for him and help him work through that loss and not be on him about a picture of someone that he lost so recently. Yes, she is being petty and selfish and, if she isn't prepared to deal with that part of his life, she needs to go one with hers. It is often harder on the man when he looses his wife than when the wife looses the husband. In cases of elderly that loss is so hard that the other spouse does not make it very much longer after the spouse that passed. Everyone needs to be supportive, especially his girlfriend.
If she wants a relationship with this man, she better accept his deceased wife as a part of his past life and not make her an enemy in his eyes. If they had children, it is absolutely necessary that their mother is still a part of their life if not only in memory. Getting mad about it will only make things worse. If I were in her shoes, I would ask him about her and let him tell me about all those feelings he had with her and just let him pour his soul out to me. I would let him mourn and help him accept her death.
He will come to accept it and turn his love to her because of her sensitivity and understanding. It's a win, win situation for both of them. But it sounds like your brothers girlfriend just doesn't have the maturity and understanding to go that way. Too bad.
He married too soon and is not yet over the death of his wife. The new wife is an attempt to regain the normalcy that was lost when his wive died. The new wife knows or at least senses this and knows that she is in a competition with the dead wife. she is upset by the picture because she insinctively realizes that the man she married is still in love with another woman, his dead wife and she can never win that competition.
It's takes alot of time to get over that. My sister's husband got killed in a car wreck. 10 yrs ago. It took her a least, 5 yrs to be able to move on. She has put the picture's away, but she still has them. And a new husband. Her new husband was very understanding. And he love's her and wanted to keep her. Therefore, he allowed her to deal with it the best way she could. And helped her greive and get on with life. Girl friend needs to be more understanding or she may not be around for long.
that sounds very selfish of her...to get angry and jealous of someone who meant a lot to her husband and not have much compassion... its only been a year!? If she got with you brother after only a year of her passing she better understand that mourning takes its toll on a person and everybody deals w it differently and she better accept that otherwise she should pack up and let your brother find someone more understanding
It's childish of her to be mad over a deceased loved one's photo.Why is she jealous of a dead person?It's not like she can come back to life and take him away from her.Her jealousy issues are off the charts.My husband has pictures of his first two wives from many years ago and I don't care.That was then and this is now.He doesn't live in the past and neither do I.Maybe she's just mad cuz he's loved someone other than her.Unless he's very young,that's a given anyway.Good grief.
my wife is a widow. she has pictures of her late husband, the father of her (adult) children. she has a few memento boxes of ';stuff';. They were married for 20+ years and as far as I can tell they were a good couple.
He's NOT a taboo subject.
On the other hand there is a pre-husband ex-boyfriend who lives across the state and is divorced... she DID contact him just before our wedding... HE IS NOT TALKED ABOUT and if I found out there was ANY contact again his health would suffer.
a deceased spouse is not a threat, an old and very alive ex-lover IS.
It's a sensitive subject. The problem is Reality.
The reality is that the ';offended'; party knows that the ONLY (and I do mean ONLY) reason he is with her is because the LOVE OF HIS LIFE died! That picture is a constant reminder that the new woman is ';second best';, and that the first wife (even though she's dead) STILL has his heart.
--That's GOTTA hurt even after you rationalize it...
most people have a past
and some have pictures of the past
if my boyfriend asked me not to have a picture out of my dead husband.. i might tell him to take a hike
no one knows what it's like to loose a loved one unless they have gone through it themselves
everyone handles it differently
did she know when she started seeing him that his x passed away?
if so.. she needs to be a comfort to him.. or she will not be a gf for long
my brother's wife died two years ago and he still has her pictures up. They have a yound son and i think its important that her memory lives on in their home. He has a girlfriend and she seems to be ok with it. I say it's ok if there are children involved. but also, it takes time to truly mourn and put all that love aside. Maybe a year is not enough.
the girlfriend shouldn't be angry. she has a choice....stay and help him through it or go and be done with it.
No I think in a case like that, it is understandable or if there is kids in the picture especially. I mean No Giant wall moral but a nice sized pic that is placed in a not so out and about or in a cormer.. just a common place. I see nothing wrong with it......but
If it is the ex that dumped him I d say burn baby burn
i do not keep pictures of my ex husabnd by my own will, i have 3 kids with him and lived 12 years together. my cirrent husband doesn't keep a picture of his ex by his own will - he lived with her for many years and has 2 children with her. we re so over our exes we do not want any reminder of previous lives. it seems like your brother still has feelings to his deceased wife. this what bothers his new woman.
Time heals all wounds
If he gets a new wife..he has to remove the picture to respect the new wife
Put yourself in the girlfriends shoes
TIME is the key word
He has to move on
Memories are good, but he must move on
How would he handle this situation..Ask him !
I hope he answers honestly
Wear the other persons shoes
i would not like it,but i would try to understand she was an important part of his life.for one second why not swap the mind for a minute and have the picture of your dead boyfriend,what is your feeling? if he is very angry because you take it.
That is selfish, not of your brother, but of his girlfriend. Your late sister-in-law didn't do anything wrong, to provoke her nasty reaction. His girlfriend needs to think about the fact, your brother is a widower.
It is bad she doesnt understand his feelings. she should be more supportive to him emotionally since it is just 1 year since he lost his loving wife. Maybe he can think of dumping her, since she might be more controlling and hurt him at a later stage.
take care of ur bro and be supportive. Sure he needs someone to say ';yes, I understand what u feel';
I think she should understand that he's probably still heart broken over his wife dying %26amp; that is up as a memory to him. She is over reacting %26amp; If it were me, I wouldn't be mad. But it just depends on the situation.
It would not bother me. I dealt with a situation like this. I did not mind my bf keeping several pics of his late wife. He had a child and it was good for him to see those pics of his mother. She was decease, it did not bother me at all.
if it was an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend, the girlfriend would be right. But it's not, he lost a wife to death, he still loves her, you don't just stop loving someone when they're dead. I'd be fine with it.
No I wouldnt take it down. Sounds like she is jealous and she shouldnt be, the person has passed away. Its just a loving reminder of someone very special to your heart, I would never take it down!
yea, it bothers me a little but i don't think about it to much. if you think a few pictures hurt try your husband having his entire wedding album because he said he paid for it
Only a moron with low self-esteem and even lower compassion would be jealous of a dead person. Surely your brother could find a normal girlfriend?
Well she is definatly a girl and he has lots of facts and good reason to dump him, but then again she may take the brass off the old door knob.
it is very selfish to ask someone to get rid of a picture of someone who passed and was special to them...she needs to grow up and realize his late wife was there before him
If the picture is of the late spouse, then I would allow it for the time until he/she is prepared to let go.
that girl needs to realize that your brothers late wife was a big part of his life. If she can't get over that fact then he needs to let her go. That girl is being disrespectful to your brother
My mother died when I was young and I keep a picture of her. My stepmother gets mad whenever she sees it.
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I ask because my brother's girlfriend was angry at him because he had a picture of his late wife. She died last year from cirrhosis of the liver. come on, isn't that a bit much? does that sound selfish to you?
what do you think?Would it upset you if your husband/wife kept a picture of their late spouse?
If anything, I would think it would reassure the girlfriend that your brother is serious about the '; 'til death do us part'; issue.Would it upset you if your husband/wife kept a picture of their late spouse?
Cirrhosis of the liver? She was an alcoholic? You would think he wouldn't want to be reminded of all the years he had to put up with her drinking.
As long as a man keeps a picture of his late wife hanging on the wall, he's not ready to start a relationship with someone new.
He needs to make up his mind. Does he want to stay in the past with his alcoholic wife or start a new life with someone else? Maybe it's time to put the picture away and replace it with a picture of himself and his girlfriend. I sure hope he isn't still wearing his wedding ring. If he is, then he needs to give himself more time to get over the loss of his wife, before he starts dating. No woman wants to compete with a ghost.
Let's face it, his wife just died last year and he's already dating? It doesn't sound to me like he's still mourning over the death of his wife. So what's up with keeping the picture of his wife out in the open for his girlfriend to have to look at every time she comes to his house?
I think that a large part of our personalities and character as adults have been shaped by our experiences. Your deceased sister-in-law has helped to create the man that is girlfriend now loves. If for nothing then for that reason only; the deceased wife and past relationship deserves respect. She was an integral part of his life and he should be allowed to memorialize her in any way he sees fit, just as long as he is not disrespecting the present girlfriend. If the girlfriend cannot understand then she is very selfish and immature. She should never have the priviledge of becomming his second wife. If your brother is in fact still moping over his late wife then it might be too soon to move on.
Not only would that be cruel to demand this of the bereaved, but it tells him you are insecure. Those who get left behind after a spouse, girlfriend, fiancee dies, have every right to hang on to photos, memories of the dead. That is part of their past, something that meant a lot to them. Asking them to let go of this just out of jealousy is lousy. Those who get jealous of the dead need to ask why they would let someone that is already gone, come between them. They cannot hurt you, unless you let them. Respect the dead and feelings of those whom get left behind. Walk in their shoes and you won't feel this way.
If it were an ex-wife, I would say yes. She has the right to be upset. However, that is not the case. It is a picture of his late wife. He has every right to keep her picture up. The death of a spouse is one of the hardest things to go through. It could take him years to fully get over her death, if ever. Has this girlfriend ever been married? If she has she would understand that bond. She should be there for him and help him work through that loss and not be on him about a picture of someone that he lost so recently. Yes, she is being petty and selfish and, if she isn't prepared to deal with that part of his life, she needs to go one with hers. It is often harder on the man when he looses his wife than when the wife looses the husband. In cases of elderly that loss is so hard that the other spouse does not make it very much longer after the spouse that passed. Everyone needs to be supportive, especially his girlfriend.
If she wants a relationship with this man, she better accept his deceased wife as a part of his past life and not make her an enemy in his eyes. If they had children, it is absolutely necessary that their mother is still a part of their life if not only in memory. Getting mad about it will only make things worse. If I were in her shoes, I would ask him about her and let him tell me about all those feelings he had with her and just let him pour his soul out to me. I would let him mourn and help him accept her death.
He will come to accept it and turn his love to her because of her sensitivity and understanding. It's a win, win situation for both of them. But it sounds like your brothers girlfriend just doesn't have the maturity and understanding to go that way. Too bad.
He married too soon and is not yet over the death of his wife. The new wife is an attempt to regain the normalcy that was lost when his wive died. The new wife knows or at least senses this and knows that she is in a competition with the dead wife. she is upset by the picture because she insinctively realizes that the man she married is still in love with another woman, his dead wife and she can never win that competition.
It's takes alot of time to get over that. My sister's husband got killed in a car wreck. 10 yrs ago. It took her a least, 5 yrs to be able to move on. She has put the picture's away, but she still has them. And a new husband. Her new husband was very understanding. And he love's her and wanted to keep her. Therefore, he allowed her to deal with it the best way she could. And helped her greive and get on with life. Girl friend needs to be more understanding or she may not be around for long.
that sounds very selfish of her...to get angry and jealous of someone who meant a lot to her husband and not have much compassion... its only been a year!? If she got with you brother after only a year of her passing she better understand that mourning takes its toll on a person and everybody deals w it differently and she better accept that otherwise she should pack up and let your brother find someone more understanding
It's childish of her to be mad over a deceased loved one's photo.Why is she jealous of a dead person?It's not like she can come back to life and take him away from her.Her jealousy issues are off the charts.My husband has pictures of his first two wives from many years ago and I don't care.That was then and this is now.He doesn't live in the past and neither do I.Maybe she's just mad cuz he's loved someone other than her.Unless he's very young,that's a given anyway.Good grief.
my wife is a widow. she has pictures of her late husband, the father of her (adult) children. she has a few memento boxes of ';stuff';. They were married for 20+ years and as far as I can tell they were a good couple.
He's NOT a taboo subject.
On the other hand there is a pre-husband ex-boyfriend who lives across the state and is divorced... she DID contact him just before our wedding... HE IS NOT TALKED ABOUT and if I found out there was ANY contact again his health would suffer.
a deceased spouse is not a threat, an old and very alive ex-lover IS.
It's a sensitive subject. The problem is Reality.
The reality is that the ';offended'; party knows that the ONLY (and I do mean ONLY) reason he is with her is because the LOVE OF HIS LIFE died! That picture is a constant reminder that the new woman is ';second best';, and that the first wife (even though she's dead) STILL has his heart.
--That's GOTTA hurt even after you rationalize it...
most people have a past
and some have pictures of the past
if my boyfriend asked me not to have a picture out of my dead husband.. i might tell him to take a hike
no one knows what it's like to loose a loved one unless they have gone through it themselves
everyone handles it differently
did she know when she started seeing him that his x passed away?
if so.. she needs to be a comfort to him.. or she will not be a gf for long
my brother's wife died two years ago and he still has her pictures up. They have a yound son and i think its important that her memory lives on in their home. He has a girlfriend and she seems to be ok with it. I say it's ok if there are children involved. but also, it takes time to truly mourn and put all that love aside. Maybe a year is not enough.
the girlfriend shouldn't be angry. she has a choice....stay and help him through it or go and be done with it.
No I think in a case like that, it is understandable or if there is kids in the picture especially. I mean No Giant wall moral but a nice sized pic that is placed in a not so out and about or in a cormer.. just a common place. I see nothing wrong with it......but
If it is the ex that dumped him I d say burn baby burn
i do not keep pictures of my ex husabnd by my own will, i have 3 kids with him and lived 12 years together. my cirrent husband doesn't keep a picture of his ex by his own will - he lived with her for many years and has 2 children with her. we re so over our exes we do not want any reminder of previous lives. it seems like your brother still has feelings to his deceased wife. this what bothers his new woman.
Time heals all wounds
If he gets a new wife..he has to remove the picture to respect the new wife
Put yourself in the girlfriends shoes
TIME is the key word
He has to move on
Memories are good, but he must move on
How would he handle this situation..Ask him !
I hope he answers honestly
Wear the other persons shoes
i would not like it,but i would try to understand she was an important part of his life.for one second why not swap the mind for a minute and have the picture of your dead boyfriend,what is your feeling? if he is very angry because you take it.
That is selfish, not of your brother, but of his girlfriend. Your late sister-in-law didn't do anything wrong, to provoke her nasty reaction. His girlfriend needs to think about the fact, your brother is a widower.
It is bad she doesnt understand his feelings. she should be more supportive to him emotionally since it is just 1 year since he lost his loving wife. Maybe he can think of dumping her, since she might be more controlling and hurt him at a later stage.
take care of ur bro and be supportive. Sure he needs someone to say ';yes, I understand what u feel';
I think she should understand that he's probably still heart broken over his wife dying %26amp; that is up as a memory to him. She is over reacting %26amp; If it were me, I wouldn't be mad. But it just depends on the situation.
It would not bother me. I dealt with a situation like this. I did not mind my bf keeping several pics of his late wife. He had a child and it was good for him to see those pics of his mother. She was decease, it did not bother me at all.
if it was an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend, the girlfriend would be right. But it's not, he lost a wife to death, he still loves her, you don't just stop loving someone when they're dead. I'd be fine with it.
No I wouldnt take it down. Sounds like she is jealous and she shouldnt be, the person has passed away. Its just a loving reminder of someone very special to your heart, I would never take it down!
yea, it bothers me a little but i don't think about it to much. if you think a few pictures hurt try your husband having his entire wedding album because he said he paid for it
Only a moron with low self-esteem and even lower compassion would be jealous of a dead person. Surely your brother could find a normal girlfriend?
Well she is definatly a girl and he has lots of facts and good reason to dump him, but then again she may take the brass off the old door knob.
it is very selfish to ask someone to get rid of a picture of someone who passed and was special to them...she needs to grow up and realize his late wife was there before him
If the picture is of the late spouse, then I would allow it for the time until he/she is prepared to let go.
that girl needs to realize that your brothers late wife was a big part of his life. If she can't get over that fact then he needs to let her go. That girl is being disrespectful to your brother
My mother died when I was young and I keep a picture of her. My stepmother gets mad whenever she sees it.
I laugh and laugh.
What is an interesting fact about your spouse, that most people don't know, and would be surprised...?
That despite the fact that my hubby does have some health issues, he is a hypochondriac. At the mere suggestion that something is going around like the flu, he will start thinking that he has it and make like he has it and doesn't. He will hear about a disease and think that he has the symptoms of it. I told him he would be the first man in history to think he is dying of cervical cancer and his eyes popped open and he asked me what that was.
It is really hard to try to decide if he is sick or not sometimes.What is an interesting fact about your spouse, that most people don't know, and would be surprised...?
That he loves singing to boy bands from the 90's like backstreet boys, LFO, and Nsync. He even knows all the words to all the songs. It's funny because he is a true guys guy and you wouldn't expect it!What is an interesting fact about your spouse, that most people don't know, and would be surprised...?
That she is so smart that she can do anything she wished. Most see her as a data analyst, but she could be a doctor or lawyer easily.
When he gets home he is quiet and hardly laughs yet he is the joker in his group. He also pees in bed when he gets so drunk! This one shocked me
He was accepted into MIT, but chose to go to a different yet still prestigious college instead.
he has a job as an engineer, but actually never got his degree.
he has different coloured eyes(one blue one green)and he farts a lot
he spoils me rotten.:)
It is really hard to try to decide if he is sick or not sometimes.What is an interesting fact about your spouse, that most people don't know, and would be surprised...?
That he loves singing to boy bands from the 90's like backstreet boys, LFO, and Nsync. He even knows all the words to all the songs. It's funny because he is a true guys guy and you wouldn't expect it!What is an interesting fact about your spouse, that most people don't know, and would be surprised...?
That she is so smart that she can do anything she wished. Most see her as a data analyst, but she could be a doctor or lawyer easily.
When he gets home he is quiet and hardly laughs yet he is the joker in his group. He also pees in bed when he gets so drunk! This one shocked me
He was accepted into MIT, but chose to go to a different yet still prestigious college instead.
he has a job as an engineer, but actually never got his degree.
he has different coloured eyes(one blue one green)and he farts a lot
he spoils me rotten.:)
How do I prevent my new spouse's debts becoming my liability?
Are you married to him yet? If you are, you're out of luck.
If not, arrange for a prenuptial agreement in which you specify that any debts either of you accrues prior to or during the marriage will remain that person's responsibility if the marriage should end.
Suze Orman's books are a pretty good source of advice about just this kind of thing. Check out this article: http://www.oprah.com/living/lifemake/exp鈥?/a>
If it's not too late for you, you might want to check out one of her books.How do I prevent my new spouse's debts becoming my liability?
As long as you don't sign any paperwork on the debts (and as long as your spouse doesn't added you as a user of the account) they will not be listed under your credit report.
For example- let's say your spouse has a Citi Visa card with a balance of $10,000. The only way this would be considered a liability under your name is if you were added as a co-borrower on the account.
In some situations you could be added as an Authorized User- with this status the account wouldn't be included against your debt ratios if you were to apply for a mortgage, car etc. At the same time though if a payment is missed (30 days late or more) it would be a blemish to your credit.How do I prevent my new spouse's debts becoming my liability?
Keep you maiden name, do not change your social security card name and sign a prenuptial agreement that states that all existing debts by either person are to remain theirs after marriage.
Don't marry him!
No, seriously. That's the only way to keep from getting intertwined at all.
But, short of that, the easiest thing is to keep your maiden name, and most importantly, NEVER get a joint account with him on anything. Then they'll have no reason to associate you with him. If you have a separate address, so much the better!
keep you last name,,
don't change your social security card
My dad used to tell me if I carried a snake around in my pocket not to complain when it bit me,, cuz it's not the snakes fault ,, it's just the nature of the beast. If you love a man with bad credit,, expect to have this as long as you are married to him,,
Interesting question -and there are several answers. Some debts -such as back taxes owed- may be (or not be) yours depending on whatever statutory provisons apply. Credit card debt of a new spouse would not normally be yours unless you're on the account with the spouse. But this separation may not be meaningful for very long; the longer you are together, the more likely that the earnings and assets of each partner may be used by the other. And what if credit card debt belonging to one spouse is transferred to a lower interest deal on a card in both names? You get the idea.
Then of course, there are always the ';understandings'; you and the spouse have between you - for example, if the indebted spouse pays for something you would otherwise buy, does that create a debt running from you back to the other spouse? All of this tends to be grist for the divorce settlement down the road when the whole mess blows up in everyone's face.
If the new spouse's debts can be closely defined and segregated from financial activity after you're married, perhaps a contract between the two of you may help keep it that way. You cannot, of course, write a contract that says his/her debt will never be yours because no one knows what lies ahead and such a contract would not operate to encumber the right of any third party. But you can specify indemnity -so that the indebted spouse agrees to pay you in case you end up being responsible for his/her debt. Then the question is ...where's the money going to come from.
If you guys have issues about this, best thing is to lay it all out before a qualified financial counselor (CPA, most likely) and see what options are open to you.
Good luck!
If not, arrange for a prenuptial agreement in which you specify that any debts either of you accrues prior to or during the marriage will remain that person's responsibility if the marriage should end.
Suze Orman's books are a pretty good source of advice about just this kind of thing. Check out this article: http://www.oprah.com/living/lifemake/exp鈥?/a>
If it's not too late for you, you might want to check out one of her books.How do I prevent my new spouse's debts becoming my liability?
As long as you don't sign any paperwork on the debts (and as long as your spouse doesn't added you as a user of the account) they will not be listed under your credit report.
For example- let's say your spouse has a Citi Visa card with a balance of $10,000. The only way this would be considered a liability under your name is if you were added as a co-borrower on the account.
In some situations you could be added as an Authorized User- with this status the account wouldn't be included against your debt ratios if you were to apply for a mortgage, car etc. At the same time though if a payment is missed (30 days late or more) it would be a blemish to your credit.How do I prevent my new spouse's debts becoming my liability?
Keep you maiden name, do not change your social security card name and sign a prenuptial agreement that states that all existing debts by either person are to remain theirs after marriage.
Don't marry him!
No, seriously. That's the only way to keep from getting intertwined at all.
But, short of that, the easiest thing is to keep your maiden name, and most importantly, NEVER get a joint account with him on anything. Then they'll have no reason to associate you with him. If you have a separate address, so much the better!
keep you last name,,
don't change your social security card
My dad used to tell me if I carried a snake around in my pocket not to complain when it bit me,, cuz it's not the snakes fault ,, it's just the nature of the beast. If you love a man with bad credit,, expect to have this as long as you are married to him,,
Interesting question -and there are several answers. Some debts -such as back taxes owed- may be (or not be) yours depending on whatever statutory provisons apply. Credit card debt of a new spouse would not normally be yours unless you're on the account with the spouse. But this separation may not be meaningful for very long; the longer you are together, the more likely that the earnings and assets of each partner may be used by the other. And what if credit card debt belonging to one spouse is transferred to a lower interest deal on a card in both names? You get the idea.
Then of course, there are always the ';understandings'; you and the spouse have between you - for example, if the indebted spouse pays for something you would otherwise buy, does that create a debt running from you back to the other spouse? All of this tends to be grist for the divorce settlement down the road when the whole mess blows up in everyone's face.
If the new spouse's debts can be closely defined and segregated from financial activity after you're married, perhaps a contract between the two of you may help keep it that way. You cannot, of course, write a contract that says his/her debt will never be yours because no one knows what lies ahead and such a contract would not operate to encumber the right of any third party. But you can specify indemnity -so that the indebted spouse agrees to pay you in case you end up being responsible for his/her debt. Then the question is ...where's the money going to come from.
If you guys have issues about this, best thing is to lay it all out before a qualified financial counselor (CPA, most likely) and see what options are open to you.
Good luck!
Spouse made less than $3000, will we still get full TAX REBATE?
If my spouse was not married she would not be eligible for the tax rebate because she only made about $1000 in income last year. (well below the $3000 minimum) but because we file our taxes as a married couple we may thus be eligible for the full $1200 tax rebate. Is this true and if so is it fair we get an extra benefit because we are married and file jointly?Spouse made less than $3000, will we still get full TAX REBATE?
Chances are that you will be eligible for the standard $900 return. That is what most couples fall into.Spouse made less than $3000, will we still get full TAX REBATE?
Check USA Today...or CNN Money
Chances are that you will be eligible for the standard $900 return. That is what most couples fall into.Spouse made less than $3000, will we still get full TAX REBATE?
Check USA Today...or CNN Money
How do you deal with a spouse that nags you when their relatives visit?
It gets under my skin that whenever my in-laws come over, my spouse starts talking to me as if any little thing that goes wrong or is out of place, is my fault.
Should I yell and scream right in front of everyone to put a stop to this annoying habit?! I am an adult.How do you deal with a spouse that nags you when their relatives visit?
Nope, don't yell or scream. You just ignore it.
Realize that regardless of her motives, your spouse is reverting to a family behavior pattern when her parents visit.
You are still you, regardless of what anybody says or does.
Her statements do not change any intrinsic thing about you.
So, realizing that ... ignore the comments, don't react or respond to them. Be polite, kind, gracious, and move the conversation on in another direction.How do you deal with a spouse that nags you when their relatives visit?
If you don't like that she is treating you like a child in front of your relatives the worst thing you can do is to stoop to her same level and yell at her in front of your guests which will only make everyone uncomfortable. I think the best time to have the discussion with her as to the way she treats you is either before they come over next time or after they leave and things are calm. Just say, I really need to talk to you about this because you are important to me but so is my family, so let's try to find a way where we can all be together in a civil manner.
Unfortunately there's not much you can do besides be understanding and stay out of her way. Obviously her parents are a bit over bearing and she's feeling the pressure. There's stiff that you do that she had to deal with, I'm sure. If it get too out of hand. Pull her to the side and calm hew down then gebtly explain she's driving you crazy.
When she starts to nag firmly ask to stop. If she does not, stoop to her level, nag her about nagging you in front of her family. Say ';Gee honey are you putting on a show for your family because you never seem to have a problem with______ when your family is not here'; Maybe then she will stop%26gt;
Have you talked to your spouse about this yet?
As for what I would do, each time they make a nasty remark infront of the in laws I would say stupid stuff like, ';I'm so sorry master, please forgive me, it won't happen again, I don't want to spend another night in the dungeon';. Either they will laugh, their parents will, or at the very least you'll make your spouse crazy!
Treat her the same way she is treating you.. and when she jumps your ****.. tell her your just reciprocating the behavior... And tell her your tired of the demeaning remarks in front of company regardless of who the company is.
That's not cool dude. She needs to repsect your family besides its both of you guys house right? I would probably yell one time in front of them to disrepect her the same way.
I bet she won't do it again.
That would not be an issue for me at all.
Never put off to tomorrow ,
a butt you can jump on right now !
Is she has no class , teach her some !
Yes, you should so that would put a stop to it make them know how disrespectful it is infront of family guests.
Yep, put her in her place in front of everyone and let her see how it feels to be talked to like that...I bet she'll stop.
yes. you don't have to get crazy. just be a little harsh so everyone can hear.
Should I yell and scream right in front of everyone to put a stop to this annoying habit?! I am an adult.How do you deal with a spouse that nags you when their relatives visit?
Nope, don't yell or scream. You just ignore it.
Realize that regardless of her motives, your spouse is reverting to a family behavior pattern when her parents visit.
You are still you, regardless of what anybody says or does.
Her statements do not change any intrinsic thing about you.
So, realizing that ... ignore the comments, don't react or respond to them. Be polite, kind, gracious, and move the conversation on in another direction.How do you deal with a spouse that nags you when their relatives visit?
If you don't like that she is treating you like a child in front of your relatives the worst thing you can do is to stoop to her same level and yell at her in front of your guests which will only make everyone uncomfortable. I think the best time to have the discussion with her as to the way she treats you is either before they come over next time or after they leave and things are calm. Just say, I really need to talk to you about this because you are important to me but so is my family, so let's try to find a way where we can all be together in a civil manner.
Unfortunately there's not much you can do besides be understanding and stay out of her way. Obviously her parents are a bit over bearing and she's feeling the pressure. There's stiff that you do that she had to deal with, I'm sure. If it get too out of hand. Pull her to the side and calm hew down then gebtly explain she's driving you crazy.
When she starts to nag firmly ask to stop. If she does not, stoop to her level, nag her about nagging you in front of her family. Say ';Gee honey are you putting on a show for your family because you never seem to have a problem with______ when your family is not here'; Maybe then she will stop%26gt;
Have you talked to your spouse about this yet?
As for what I would do, each time they make a nasty remark infront of the in laws I would say stupid stuff like, ';I'm so sorry master, please forgive me, it won't happen again, I don't want to spend another night in the dungeon';. Either they will laugh, their parents will, or at the very least you'll make your spouse crazy!
Treat her the same way she is treating you.. and when she jumps your ****.. tell her your just reciprocating the behavior... And tell her your tired of the demeaning remarks in front of company regardless of who the company is.
That's not cool dude. She needs to repsect your family besides its both of you guys house right? I would probably yell one time in front of them to disrepect her the same way.
I bet she won't do it again.
That would not be an issue for me at all.
Never put off to tomorrow ,
a butt you can jump on right now !
Is she has no class , teach her some !
Yes, you should so that would put a stop to it make them know how disrespectful it is infront of family guests.
Yep, put her in her place in front of everyone and let her see how it feels to be talked to like that...I bet she'll stop.
yes. you don't have to get crazy. just be a little harsh so everyone can hear.
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