Why is it that most pals who get along with staff at work and peers do have it rough with their spouse/family?

Most guys and ladies out there who are outgoing in social places do not reflect the same in their homes. Infact they are monsters to their spouses and close family members including their own children. Do you members to this forum have any scientific proven theory about this social aspect?Why is it that most pals who get along with staff at work and peers do have it rough with their spouse/family?
I'm sorry, I must disagree with you that it is *most*, although I definitely know the type you are talking about.





Some people who are friendly and outgoing have wonderful family relationships, this I know for a fact.





But it is also very true that there is a 'street devil, house angel' type that makes life very tough for the people they are supposed to love.





I'm sure there are members in the Psychology section who would have more information about this phenomenon.





The people I have known who are like this were all very troubled people in many ways, had suffered abuse and had become abusers themselves.





If you or someone you know is experiencing mistreatment at the hands of someone like this, it is especially hard, because so many outsiders have no clue the person is really a monster at home, and think the spouse and family must be so lucky to have such a great apouse/parent.





But, you are NOT alone!





I've included a couple of links to organisations which can help people caught in this type of situation (see below).





Best luck and good wishes :-)Why is it that most pals who get along with staff at work and peers do have it rough with their spouse/family?
You can not answer such questions using rationality


and logic. The Hinduism says that such behaviour


is a result of their Karma.
I disagree, completely. As in the first reply, my husband and I are both outgoing at work. We have a good relationship at home, open communication, laughter, fun.


I don't know where you get your theory but I can said it's a hairbrained idea.
All people; in general; lack knowledge and awareness about self in themselves.





They are not aware that like money; for earning which; they force to drive themselves to get along with peers and staff at work place and out side; they also have to earn the trust, faith, and confidence of their family members in them selves and for them selves.





They take the trust, faith and confidence of their family members towards them self as gurenteed for themselves; and as always forthcoming towards themselves; come what may; and as and when they desire for it or demand it from them.





When such knowledge prevails in the minds of all in a family; then expectations also rise in all without ever being fullfilled; and the result of such high and unfullfilled expectations; becomes the cause of monestrous actions and activities of the self; by the self.





The cause of any thing is also the effect of that thing; and thus not only lack of knowledge and awareness of self in self prevails;but also ignorence and ignorent use of the awatreness of self prevails,
I think your theory is incorrect. Both my husband and I are outgoing at work and share a healthy, wonderful relationship at home. We get along very well with the occassional battle but that's expected.





I don't anyone like you speak of. I think your personality in general is reflected in the home and at work or in public. Maybe shy people will be more open at home that at work but outside of that I don't see it.





Now those that are abused at home or have a miserable relationship might seek friendship outside of the home. Maybe they will appear more extroverted to hide their feelings but I think that's a stretch.
Scientific theory, no, i don't have, but i guess the reason for that is most outgoing guys and ladies are able to be themselves when around friends. There is acceptance in the crowd while more criticism at home.