Why do some married people turn to cheat on their spouse even after taking a vow on the altar?

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because their spouse in this case would be the man:


1. Cheated on them


2. lied to them


3. is a work alcoholic and will not spend time with them instead. Knowing that he doesn't have to pull all that over time, when all the bills are up-to-date.


4. He watches TV more and falls a sleep in the recliner instead of in the bed with is wife.


4. Because the other spouse (man) accuses them of cheating and beats them because they believe in their minds the wife has. So she thinks if I am getting beat for it I might as well do it.


5. Because they spend to much time with the boys or at the bar instead of at home with hid wife.


6. Because they fuss and cuss the wife out all the time for things that she didn't do nor is her fault driving her to the edge. So she cheats to get back at him in her mind. Knowing that once she leaves she can say oh by the way I cheated on you LOL. See she knows that would hurt him more in the end then her just walking out on him.


7. Because he takes to many trips with his secretary and doesn't get paid for it. HMM


8. because their spouse neglected them and is never there to listen or help them out when they need a friend and a shoulder to cry own.


9. In hopes that she will find someone better to fall in love with.


10. Because he is a jerk/a$$


Why do some married people turn to cheat on their spouse even after taking a vow on the altar?
Sad really...I think that they are not taking the marriage vow seriously and to them it is just a piece of paper when it is so much more. You need to look at the big picture.





Cheating to them seems to be the easy way out when really they should be putting their time and energy into respecting the other person and better communication and working to save a marriage rather than trying to destroy it.Why do some married people turn to cheat on their spouse even after taking a vow on the altar?
Married couples male or female will cheat regardless. Its their human nature and they don't need an excuse to cheat...they just do it for any reason and that's a fact/sometimes they actually fall in love and then the person they love breaks off the affair leaving them hopeless and that leads to bitter destruction.





When you can put fun and affairs together that spells trouble.
Because society accepted immorality and so, everyone thinks that's it's ok to cheat or walk out of a marriage when they find someone else to lust on, or, cannot handle the problems everyone endures during their marriage. People don't seem to care about values and each other so, the hurt of broken marriages keeps going on while society keeps accepting it.
Because marriage is a human 'invention' for social and survival purposes against the nature of the much more powerful biology of man.





If you look at this subject from a biological point, it will be much more clearer and you'll see why it is senseless to get angry, kill, or what have you for these kind of events.





Read up on the ';Selfish Gene'; and other biology books to understand that we are driven by our genes and nature and that illogical religious, cultural, societal rules will always be broken (hence the high divorce rates etc.)



Each individual has their story,I cannot Judge all cases .I have found Allot of women complain about that and do not remember the other vows they did not keep..one lady had the gall to throw their vows that were on tape after he asked for a divorce when for 20 years she undermined him in front of his children treated him like the only reason he was there was for money .(she refused to help out in finances)and refused to work more than part time while he worked several jobs.Her so called job only few blocks away she had him drive her to.So after his heart attack he decided if she continued in this he would wait for the kids to grow up and go..We all have our reasons and my point is cheating is not the only vow made..Love and Honor are vows also..look at the whole picture is allI am saying
BECAUSE OVER THE YEARS THIS AREN'T AS FUN AND EXCITING ANYMORE! Boredom in the bedroom and maybe isn't as interacted to the other person as much anymore. Wants to experience what else is out there and all that I mean by that is having the experience of another partner and having new things and idea not only spiritually but also sexually. That's when the ex interacted with someone that's lets say interacted. This too can be very funny. I have been with a man that has been forbidden for me to see but, I still love being with him and its. Some make the the best , wonderful; lovers Its been 4 yrs. now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
after i found out my wife was doing things with someone else she said we were to young to get married after 8 years i though that was the only thing she could think of because i loved her 8 years later and i didn't think we were to young i took my vows serious because 8 years went by and we were still together were not together anymore because infidelity on her part.
standard vows dont mean a thing to people anymore. i married my husband and i wrote my own vows even thought i couldnt say them because i was crying, but its the truth vows are crap..the whole fidelity thing and richer or poorer is crap.. i guess they cheat because its a way out of problems, or fulfilling their needs they feel they cant get from the spouse
They think their feelings are more important than their vow.





If they put their spouse and marriage first they will get through the difficult times together.





If they think they deserve happiness and attention no matter what, they'll seek that attention from anyone outside the marriage.
A ';Break Down'; in keeping the communications line open.





I look at couples in their 70's/ 80's and I wonder ';What did they do to keep together for so long? One couple told me that after so many years that they were too tired to go looking for something else! (they were in their 80's)


On the serious side, the woman in her 70's told me(as she was holding hands with her husband(he was in his 70's as well), We have been through so much together, good and bad, that we learned to ';Trust'; in each other, to TALK to each other no matter how hard times would get. He has become my FRIEND/ my COMPANION/ and for sometime,...my LOVER...but forever my HUSBAND.


The old man smiled and gave me a wink...I didn't need to ask him anything as that as she was answering, she gave his hand a little squeeze.


Marriage vows are fine...if you believe in them and use them as a ';Guide'; to live by...but so often as time goes by....we forget what it was that we said at that alter..... To LOVE....HONOR.....CHERISH...in SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH.......


I watched as the old couple walked back to the community bus that would take them back to the ';Home'; and wondered if I would ever have the chance to take those ';Vows'; again.
Because a vow really is nothing more than a promise. People lie and break promises all the time. I think the simple truth is, it's human nature to lie, and it may seem easier to cheat than to leave the marriage.
1 bad self esteem


2 bad morals


3 bad relationship skills


4 no conscience


5 STUPIDITY


6 horrible upbringing to believe it's ok


7 I don't know
Because the vows they said meant nothing but words to them. They have not respect, love, trust, self esteem for them self or their spouse
after sometime of their marriage they lose that spark in the relation and they want change thats y they cheat.
Because the vows mean nothing to them.